shadowplay Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I'm going up to NY this weekend to visit my bf -- he's come to see me the previous three. Today he informed me he's putting up this dude he knows I hate for one of the three nights I'll be there. This mutual aquaintance, let's call him Mark, was in the same class last spring where I met my bf. That's how we all met each other. During the class (before my bf asked me out), Mark and I were on friendly terms and I got vibes that he was somewhat interested in me. Then I ended up dropping the class and fell out of contact with Mark. My bf and I kept in touch and he asked me out in June. Apparently he and Mark also kept in contact to help each other on their respective student films. My bf reported to me that when we first started dating he told Mark and Mark got all weird and defensive. Mark said to my bf was "pretty cute," and went into this random story about how he got involved with this other girl who was "even prettier" than me. I thought that was a completely douchey, inappropriate thing to tell my bf, and I started disliking Mark from then on. My bf also said he didn't think Mark was a very good person, so he didn't know why he kept helping him out with his film stuff. Mark ended up emailing me for help on something related to his film that only I could have helped him with (long story), and I ignored his emails. I get the feeling Mark just uses people and is very dishonest. So now my bf tells me he is putting this guy up. This will be an EXTREMELY awkward set up. We'll be sleeping together in the same small apartment for a night. With a guy I hate...who probably hates me now because I didn't respond to his emails...with all this weird sexual tension since we were sort of interested in each other before...and now the fact that I'll be visibly with my bf in his presence...and he'll probably be able to hear us having sex. What is my bf thinking? He doesn't even like the guy...he's barely even friends with him...just aquaintances. Why is he putting him up? I asked him and he said his feelings about Mark are "mixed." But seriously, this whole thing makes no sense at all! I don't understand why he's creating this awkward situation. I told him that I thought it didn't feel right, and he said he didn't think it was a big deal to put up the guy for a night. This whole thing pisses me off. What should I do?
compassion42 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Go there, be civil to the other guy and be your fabulous self. It sounds like the other guy is just jealous and sometimes that can come off as being a jerk. Also suggest to your BF that next time you come to visit you'd rather it just be the two of you.
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