should I or shouldnt I?

[analyseThis]

Girl in my class likes me and has liked me for 2 months or over now :S God knows? She finally convinced one of our mutual friends to break it to me. Had a talk with her; and immediately ended up putting myself in her shoes. What if i had a major crush or liked a some girl and she just shot me down. It wont be nice or the right thing to do; that would be cold in fact. So i thought I would give it a chance. Maybe i might grow to like her?

 

Fast forward a week. Her cousin dies due to an overdoes of medicine given by the doctor; she is obviously upset by this and starts hinting to me that she needs to be around some one who cares and shes unable to relate to family etc..etc. I basically let her know if she needs me to call or if she needs some one to talk to; call me anytime.

 

First date comes by; things are going sort of ok; until the end where she reached out and twisted my ear (abuse?) really hard; for me making a joke about the fact that she hates snakes :S I was trying to bring some reaction into an otherwise stale conversation. (she is not the best at conversations) and since i knew her as a friend before; I thought she would not care. I did not go overboard or extreme with my jokes; i never do. All i said was "Dont worry; this night was Snake-Tacular" ; and apparently this warranted a ear twisting that left my ear red all night. This made me feel like there was breach of personal space and etiquette. Come on first date! Pushed me away from her more.

 

Other reasons why I don't think she is my type:

She smokes (big turn off; since I am into my fitness)

She has a low tolerance for alcohol but still drinks a bit

Drama/Gossip queen

She wears waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much make up

Shes not much of a conversational person (Uses the words "whatever" and "I dont know" waaay to much.)

The most important point now: She was apparently making fun of me and my X-girl when we broke up; I was not around at the time; this came from a very trusted source who has nothing to gain from just making stuff up and telling me.

 

all in all I just want to tell her that being friends is the best for me right now since I am in my last year of the degree program I am completing and I really dont see her in any light other than just a friend. But I dont want to hurt her more; because shes already kind of emotional by the cousin passing away thing. What do I do in this case? Give it some time? or just end it now and let her feel more hurt over and above the cousin death thing. Frankly I hate the second option and its way too cold.

[dutchie]

I think you should tell her asap. Prolonging it and stringing her along is never gonna help her out. I know you want to do the right thing, but it is gonna hurt her feelings regardless of when you tell her. That is just my 2 cents.