TheSilentType Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Would a girl seriously flirt with you only for attention? If this girl had a bf faraway, but was giving you pretty serious signs (always trying to be around you, coming and sitting by you, teasing you), is she only doing that for fun and for herself? Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them?
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 It can be one of three things: She is interested in you, as more than a friend.She's put you in the safe friend's zone.She's messing with you.
LN99 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 She's probably missing her bf. So, 'the next best thing at the moment. I wouldn't take it too seriously unless she dumps him. I had a guy (with a gf) who did the same stuff. It sucks, but theres a reason that he is still with her and not with me.
Citizen Erased Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them? No........
LN99 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 She's probably missing her bf. So, 'the next best thing at the moment. I wouldn't take it too seriously unless she dumps him. I had a guy (with a gf) who did the same stuff. It sucks, but theres a reason that he is still with her and not with me. *So, YOU'RE the next best thing at the moment. Sorry, there was a typo.
norajane Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Would a girl seriously flirt with you only for attention? Yes, they do it all the time. If this girl had a bf faraway, but was giving you pretty serious signs (always trying to be around you, coming and sitting by you, teasing you), is she only doing that for fun and for herself?Very often, yes, it's just for fun for herself. Although she probably thinks you enjoy the attention and the flirtation, too, or you'd have given her 'back off' signals or told her to back off. Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them?No, she's betraying her bf, and that is not harmless. If by harmless you mean, can she flirt like that and still not be interested in a relationship with you, yes, yes she can.
monkey00 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 The majority of peole I've seen that often flirt guilt-free are the ones who are in relationships. They want to cheat (or out of the relationship), but although they have no intention of cheating they still do it for the ego boost.
Meaplus3 Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Would a girl seriously flirt with you only for attention? If this girl had a bf faraway, but was giving you pretty serious signs (always trying to be around you, coming and sitting by you, teasing you), is she only doing that for fun and for herself? Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them? Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them? I would say YES and NO. For example: I know that I have enjoyed getting attention by flirting with someone that I found appealing. However with that someone it was a peerson that I did not want anything more from then the attention that flirting provided me at that time. On the flip side to this as with MM, My flirting with him had the intention to want more behind it. See the difference? AP:)
WaterTiger Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 Yes, she does it for attention! At the expense of your heart and her Bf's trust. She's what's known as an "Attention Whore". A dramatic, "center of the party" kind of girl. She judges her self-worth on how much every one notices her. Quite sad really.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 20, 2007 Posted November 20, 2007 Her initial intention was to get attention. But, if it's been going on for months or longer, than she has an emotional interest in you, as you do in her. The mind is one f/up instrument and can burn itself, easily. Do you know if there is trouble between her and bf? My guess is that it is not what she's looking for and looking for another or for you to make a move.
tashigirl Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 well, i'm a girl, and I like to flirt, yes sometimes with guys i have no interest in. you may not like this, but its nice to know a man is interested in you, even if you have no interest in them...so even if i know a guy likes me, i'll still flirt with him because i want him to keep liking me because its good for my self esteem! but if i feel he is going to make a move, trust me then i will stop flirting because i don't want anything to happen!
SuperFantastico Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 HA HA HA. Of course they do. Guys do it too. Just because you are in a relationship it doesnt mean you're in jail. Heres a fun test you can do. Next time you go to a mall, when you are walking around try to lock eyes with any random girl. Its kinda like a battle of wills. If you look away first she wins and you are in the 'friends zone' , if she looks away first you are in the drivers seat if you will. Dont do it to pickup chicks, but just to test the fact that women are always checking out the options. The best is that women with BOYFRIENDS do this too. I've never found a woman that wont look back. Usually i lose :S being shy and all shucks like.
EYECANDY000 Posted November 26, 2007 Posted November 26, 2007 yes, its possible that she can be flirting with you and not even be interested. She maybe doing it because it just comes natural and she a flirtatious galShe is doing it because she wants to get an reaction out of youOr maybe she misses her bf, and your the closest person aroundOr she could be one of those girls who just like to boost their ego from time to time. and she knows that you wont ask for anything as far as a date because she has a bf. and if you do it will be a good way to shoot you down. and now she feels like if she keeps flirting with you ,and you will continue to ask her out.. makes sense
Timberlane Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Her initial intention was to get attention. But, if it's been going on for months or longer, than she has an emotional interest in you, as you do in her. The mind is one f/up instrument and can burn itself, easily... Isn't that the truth. And none of us can exclude ourselves from that observation. It's amazing we aren't all insane. I have found long distance relationships are prone to this sort of flirting thing. It is also what leads to their undoing, in the way that flirtations sometimes just turn into more and get physical and deeper emotionally. You may not want to get involved in that sort of situation.
Leia Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Would a girl seriously flirt with you only for attention? If this girl had a bf faraway, but was giving you pretty serious signs (always trying to be around you, coming and sitting by you, teasing you), is she only doing that for fun and for herself? Can people really flirt that seriously and it still be harmless for them? Some girls do that. She could be doing it just for fun. Not me. Flirting can be dangerous!~
SuperFantastico Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Flirting for attention is SO common. Her boyfriends far away so shes craving some intimacy(non sexual sorry bro), and you are probably an attractive subsitute. Dont read too much into it. Flirt back, have some fun, practice for the real deal.
RecordProducer Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 OK, everybody said she is just playing with your heart, but it could be true that she is interested in you, too. The BF is far away and you're close. Why not try your chances and ask her on a date? You have nothing to lose.
Author TheSilentType Posted December 3, 2007 Author Posted December 3, 2007 OK, everybody said she is just playing with your heart, but it could be true that she is interested in you, too. The BF is far away and you're close. Why not try your chances and ask her on a date? You have nothing to lose. I like the way you think RP lol But nah. I don't waste my time on dead ends. As quick as I like someone I get over just as fast. I was using her attention for fun almost as much as she was using mine. I too got what I wanted, and now I'm moving on.
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