randuff Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 This Thanksgiving will be the first time in 5 years that the ex and I will not be spending Turkey Day together... My son will be with his mother (not the ex) so I will be alone... It is going to royally suck and I don't know what I am going to do with my time... I guess I will cook a turkey coz I love leftover sandwiches and watch football all day, alone, by myself.... Gawd it's gonna suck!:sick:
hopeforlove243 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 It is going to be tough for all of us... I actually have several friends invited me to their houses, but don't feel like doing that at all
KittenMoon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Do you know any other single alone guys, guys from work even, who might like an afternoon of turkey, beer and football?
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Any chance you could solicit a friend for an invite to their place, if you can't get someone who's available to come to your place?
Author randuff Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 All married or coupled up and don't feel like being around that. Started a new job so asking to hang with a co-worker wouln't work. 6 months and 16 days since we split and we talk every day still.... Why I torture myself I don't know.
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 While I understand not wanting to be around couples, surprisingly you may find you'll have a good time once you get there.
LakesideDream Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 After 25 years of multiple holiday dinners (both inlaws, and at home), 18 or more years includied kids, I was scared as hell of sitting in the house on my first Turkey Day post divorce (3+ months), while fretting I got an idea. I read some articles on the web, then I went out and bought a George Foreman rotisseree, (already had a grill). I found a turkey that fit it, which wasn't so easy, skewered the bird (firguring out how to tie the legs and wings down was hardest) and started it spinning, baked a couple of Yams, smashed up a couple of potatoes, kermit turds, the works. Best turkey I ever had, technically. Eating it alone wasn't perfect, but it worked out for me. Had all the left overs, a weeks turkey sandwiches, it was fun. It was difficult enough to take all my attention, for most of the day, really keeping me busy. I think that doing it myself, the possibility of starting my own tradition, even an "alone" tradition, being proud of the job I did, made it a lot easier being alone. In the seven years since I've worn out that first George and replaced it with a new and very improved model. I cook prime ribs, chicken, turkey, salmon, jump started a cooking hobby. I've had lots of friends. Folks (especially ladies) freak out when I invited them over for a meal, and really put on a show when they were expecting mac and cheese, or a hamburger off the BBQ. Just a thought, might work for you.
Phateless Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 While I understand not wanting to be around couples, surprisingly you may find you'll have a good time once you get there. Nah, being around it only makes me miss it more.
Trialbyfire Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Nah, being around it only makes me miss it more. That's a shame. I recall feeling the same way you guys did but when I went, I felt better.
KittenMoon Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Why don't you volunteer at a church or soup kitchen? They are always looking for folks to lend a hand during holiday meals.
Grace112 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 KittenMoon, I think that's a great idea! randuff, if you volunteer, not only would you not be alone, but you might make a real difference in someone's life. I'm sure that great feeling will help carry you through any sort of loneliness you might experience.
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