PLAYBRAT Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Hi everyone... I am involved in an EA (emotional affair) with a married man. We have never been physically intimate...but it doesn;t mean it won't ever happen. The thing is..we have been friends long before he got married. The timing has just always been off. The woman he married got pregnant earlier this year and he is trying to "do the right thing", as he is pretty old school. I don;t want to end our friendship..neither does he...but I know in my heart I want more Right now I am just slowly distancing myself from him...but it is SO hard. I want him to be happy and I would never ask him to break up his R for me. Sometimes I think a Physical affair would be simpler....with no emotions involved. How do I get over this feeling? This longing?? I know they say the opposite of love is indifference, but I don't think I can ever feel that way for him. He knows how I feel and he says he understands...but he doesn't know what else to do. I am not sure if I need advice or just an ear to vent. Either way..thanks for "listening"..
GreenEyedLady Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Why didn't you date before he got married?
Gwyneth Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Oh wow, what a bad situation this is. His wife is pregnant, and you are in love with him? Is that right? Ouch... Well, I think you know that you want him to be there for his pregnant wife and the baby when it's born, right? Did he marry her only because she was pregnant? I too am in an EA. It's hard. It really is. I have had no PC with this guy either. And that's good you haven't. Because once you do, the love will most likely grow harder. I have always heard that distancing yourself from anyone you have a difficult time getting over helps, but at the same time, distance makes the heart grow fonder. You need to come to the realization that he is married and there's a baby on the way. To me, a baby is more meaningful than just a wife. I know many disagree with me here, but I think your situation would be much easier minus the pregnancy. Try staying away from him, go out with your friends and have fun. Keep your mind off of him. That helps too--distraction.
Author PLAYBRAT Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Hi GEL... As I said..basically the timing has just always been off. When we met he was going througha divorce with his wife of 15 years.....and in between he began seeing another woman...who was pretty much his divorce 'rebound" since ....and the one he married. That's truthfully the most honest and precise answer I can come up with..
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