lindsey87 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 My exboyfriend has recently broken up with me and i still don't understand the reasoning behind it. We were together for about two and a half months and everything seemed like it was going pretty good. During the first 2-3 weeks of our relationsihp we got to spend almost every single day together. We were very happy and never faught! Then i had to move away to go to school which was about 4 hours away from where he lived. We still got to see each other every weekend, so it wasn't too bad. However, after bout one 4-5 weeks we started to fight every once in a while, nothing big just long distance relationship stuff. Then one day he promissed to call me and never did so i called him back asking him what was going on. He said sorry he didn't think that i'd care. I told him that i did and asked him if he cared about me. He replied with "i'm sorry". I wasn't sure what he meant by that so kept asking him questions untill i finally said do you want to be with me. His response was "no, i'm sorry". He broke up with me over the phone for pretty much no reason! I waited a week and decided to go see and talk to him in person. He started off telling me that I was beautiful, smart, funny, cool to hang out with yet he didn't like me like that. He said he was attracted to me in every single way but he just couldn't develop feelings for me. When I asked him why, he simlpy blamed it on his past relationship. Then he also mentioned that he wasn't sure who he was and had to figure it out for himself before he could go aound dating people. AND he told me that he isn't the type of guy who goes out and parties. Well, ever since we broke up he's been goin around partying and drinking every night, i even heard he's been talking to a few girls. I haven't called, messaged, contacted him in any way, but he keeps sending me text messages and e-mails once a week asking me how i'm doing and what is going on. Why? I am so confused. If he doesn't like me like that and care about me then why try and talk to me? he knows that i loved him and that it's hard for me to just act like nothin happened.
Krytie TV Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Not to be mean, but I would suggest to you that the first problem is deeply you are hurt by a 2.5 month relationship. Worse things are to come. You need to not fall so hard in such a short time. Wait til your first 2 year relationship ends, then you'll understand the difference.
SunnyLady Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Hey Lindsdey! Sometimes we fall really hard very quickly!! Sometimes a 2.5 month rship can feel like a 2year relationship. Heartbreaks are no respecter of mine and time. Anyone and everyone is capable of being a victim to heartbreak. I understand how you feel. Sometimes its worse when rships end so early...and all your hopes and dreams get dashed so quickly before its even started. Carry on as you have been doing. Don't initiate contact. Its let to you whether or not you want to answer his calls but i would suggest not. Seeing as you still have feelings towards him. You say he has been talking to other girls? Don't let that bother you, the chances are that he may be messing around with them. Anyway i know you're not going to like this bit...but please try to move on. Luckily for you, you havent invested as much as you would have had you been togther for a longer period of time. So the healing process will be relatively quicker :-). You deserve someone who wants to be with you. If he isnt for you...then someone else will be. As to why he still remains in contact...he might genuiely like you as a person and want to be friends. But i think he doesnt want to let you go...just yet! Incase he is left with nothing from the greener pastures he is exploring. So let's just say he wants you in his life even though he doesnt want you...And i think he is trying to maintain contact so his hold on you doesnt diminish...especially as he is not sure what the future holds. You deserve better. Move on with your life, you sound sweet and im sure you will find someone else. If he does come back...hopefully you will have moved on and then he will eat his words. Keep us posted. xxx
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