LikeABird Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 i removed an ex from my facebook friends list, dont want to see him, dont want to see his status changes to 'in a relationship', dont want to see pictures of his future girlfriend-potential-fiance. we parted 9 months ago after dating for less than half a year. he was my first sex, i didnt have sex with anyone else after him, it takes me a while to find a man i am attracted to and want to have sex with. i was well into the ex though. we broke up about 10 days after he said he was 'rethinking the relationship'. i was the one who said the "its over", but i am fully aware that it was really him who pushed me to do it (same old trick: he was getting more and more distant, cancelling dates and generally being an arse, the last straw, 3 days before split, was when during an argument he blured out "we are sucha pair... we probably won't get married.... (...but u neva know)", i thought it was cruel of him to say to me and in effect he finished it back there). We parted, main reason was that he doesnt love me. he said he never loved anybody (which i find hard to believe, the guy is 27). The break up itself was shockingly hard on both of us, we both cried, which confused me, i mean, surely thats what he wanted, so why was he so upset? because of this confusion, i suggested him to try work on us when he wanted to come over a week later. he politly declined, so i told him that theres no point to come. Anyway, we parted and remained in low contact. a few months later he joined facebook (i invited him, at the time i reallly thought we could be friends). already then i realised that facebook is a mistake. he sent me a few msgs and wall posts, and i sent back, until he stopped replying. so i stopped writing. but i still looked at his profile from time to time although i tried not to. 2 months after the last communication he send a casual msg, just asking how im doing. that one really annoyed me, i dont know why, i felt like he is messsing up with my head after he didnt reply my own msg. so i removed him from facebook and deleted every transaction. im looking now at what i wrote and i think to myself, jesus its so pathetic of me! we dated for 4 months! surely it shouldnt bother me at all now? or maybe its because i didnt fall for anybody else yet? or because i had sex with him??? damn...! anyways thats just a rant
Gravedigger Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Hey LikeABird. I have almost the exact same feelings for my ex. We also only dated for 3-4 months, and then she eventually contacted me back again (on messenger though) I don't think it matters how long you have gone out with someone, it's more the way you felt when you were going out. I am still torn about my ex, but at least i find it easier to move on now. It is some 6 months ago since we broke up. Well, that's just a few thoughts from me. I don't really have any advice, just wanted to let you know you are not the only one who feels like this:) Anyway - my story is that I have met with a lot of women lately, who seem to be very interested in going out with me, but because I constantly keep thinking about my ex, it just never amounts to anything, and to be frank, I think I may have acted like an arse towards som of them lately, which makes me feel kind of a shamed - damn, it's not easy ! I just keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason (at least I hope so) Best wishes
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