dontdoit Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 been with mm for over 2 years, didnt see each other for 2 months as w found out. saw him sunday just gone am so in love with him. i know its wrong but i cant stop whats wrong with me im such a fool:lmao:
NoIDidn't Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Are you looking for someone to tell you that you are not a fool, trying to stop seeing him, or trying to warn someone against what you are now caught up in? Just asking first. He didn't see you for two months, huh? Does that mean that he is sneaking to see you still and hasn't told you that he has decided to stay married and appease his W (with lies) and you (with a partial R with him)? A guy that doesn't see me for two months for any reason had better have a damn good reason for that kind of neglect.
Gwyneth Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 A guy that doesn't see me for two months for any reason had better have a damn good reason for that kind of neglect. For real. I'm in similar shoes as you, as I'm having an affair with a MM, not in love with him, and hopefully will not get to that point. If you were able to cope, and yes, you coped because you are still alive, without him for two whole months, then I think you can go longer. Stay strong, but follow your heart. If your heart still wants to give him another chance and be with him still, then do it, but be prepared for him to walk out of your life again for two months, or maybe even longer. Hang in there
whichwayisup Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Bottomline here - 2 months of NC says ALOT, especially after D-Day, so I am going to assume here that you ran into him unexpectedly and your feelings came rushing back once you saw him. You didn't say if you spoke to him or not. I doubt he's going to leave his wife so you should try to get back into NC mode and heal yourself so you can get over him, and one day when you're ready to date again, find a man who can offer you much more than a married man can.
nadiaj2727 Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Stay strong, dontdoit! You can survive without him and you are better off that way.
hollaxatholly Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Don't worry, you won't get any support here. The only thing anyone here or any other forum for the OW...is make you feel like an idiot for being in love with someone and tell you to move on. The problem is, most of them are still with their MM's and still holding on to the hope that he'll leave his W, when one day they will be feeling the same way, most likely...and they'll be here, feeling upset with no one to do anything except make them try to feel worse.... I don't understand...everyone seems to be so against the OW/OM..but this is supposed to be a forum where it's not such a crime to be with a MM/MW...I don't get it... your not alone though, just keep going on...I don't have any good advice for you because I'm feeling somewhat the same. So many questions, with no answers...I guess just be glad this didn't happen to you 10 years down the road...like some OW...who have been waiting and hoping for so long....I can only hope it gets better with more time.
GreenEyedLady Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I am wondering what you are looking for, too...Are you wanting to rekindle the R or are you here for everyone to tell you not to do it like your namesake?
Author dontdoit Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Are you looking for someone to tell you that you are not a fool, trying to stop seeing him, or trying to warn someone against what you are now caught up in? Just asking first. He didn't see you for two months, huh? Does that mean that he is sneaking to see you still and hasn't told you that he has decided to stay married and appease his W (with lies) and you (with a partial R with him)? A guy that doesn't see me for two months for any reason had better have a damn good reason for that kind of neglect. yes i am warning others ! 2 years is a long time in the 2 months i did not see him ..that was my choice .ignored his calls and texts.but then gave in....back to square one
Author dontdoit Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 For real. I'm in similar shoes as you, as I'm having an affair with a MM, not in love with him, and hopefully will not get to that point. If you were able to cope, and yes, you coped because you are still alive, without him for two whole months, then I think you can go longer. Stay strong, but follow your heart. If your heart still wants to give him another chance and be with him still, then do it, but be prepared for him to walk out of your life again for two months, or maybe even longer. Hang in there thanks your so right dont fall in love thats the key how long have you been with mm ? do you want to share your story x
Author dontdoit Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Bottomline here - 2 months of NC says ALOT, especially after D-Day, so I am going to assume here that you ran into him unexpectedly and your feelings came rushing back once you saw him. You didn't say if you spoke to him or not. I doubt he's going to leave his wife so you should try to get back into NC mode and heal yourself so you can get over him, and one day when you're ready to date again, find a man who can offer you much more than a married man can. no we went out on a date.my choice nc for 2 months ten i weakened
Author dontdoit Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Don't worry, you won't get any support here. The only thing anyone here or any other forum for the OW...is make you feel like an idiot for being in love with someone and tell you to move on. The problem is, most of them are still with their MM's and still holding on to the hope that he'll leave his W, when one day they will be feeling the same way, most likely...and they'll be here, feeling upset with no one to do anything except make them try to feel worse.... I don't understand...everyone seems to be so against the OW/OM..but this is supposed to be a forum where it's not such a crime to be with a MM/MW...I don't get it... your not alone though, just keep going on...I don't have any good advice for you because I'm feeling somewhat the same. So many questions, with no answers...I guess just be glad this didn't happen to you 10 years down the road...like some OW...who have been waiting and hoping for so long....I can only hope it gets better with more time.bless u thanks for that mm has never promised me anything and i have asked for nothing.long story xx
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