muse27 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 ok.. so reading thru some of these posts and also having read some of 'men are from mars, women are from venus', is this thing about guys pulling back true? to surmise, it states that a guy will go after a chase, then when he gets the girl, everything may be dandy. but then a male is pre-programmed in their gender to pull back like a rubberband and retreat. 'they need their space' all of a sudden. women are supposed to give guys slack and not make a mountain out of a molehill and let him be. this will then prompt him to come back to you of his own accord because youre not nagging or worse...asking him to talk about his 'feelings'. so question to the guys...is this really true? a guy can really be into you, but pull away because he needs to detach all of a sudden cause its too much emotionally? or is this just some spew for girls to not call a guy out on basically dissing her in whatever situation it may be?
4givrnt4gtr Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 i really hope someone responds to this...id LOVE to know too...
reboot Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 There is a lot of truth in it. You girls have a lot more "connectors" between brain halves than we do. I'm not being flippant, that's a scientific fact. Emotionally speaking, you are "psychic" compared to us. We often have to have "alone time" to digest what we feel and how we want to respond/react. It's really nothing personal. AND, we can be trained if you take the time to do so.
4givrnt4gtr Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 AND, we can be trained if you take the time to do so. ohh do tell!
gonetildecember Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 i once read an explanation about it on christiancarter.com (in the free 7 day e book i think), but supposedly it is QUITE common. Not a male, so don't really know the logisitics behind it..but from what ive read/learned its the males way of adjusting to the rush of feelings.
Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 There is a lot of truth in it. You girls have a lot more "connectors" between brain halves than we do. I'm not being flippant, that's a scientific fact. Emotionally speaking, you are "psychic" compared to us. We often have to have "alone time" to digest what we feel and how we want to respond/react. It's really nothing personal. AND, we can be trained if you take the time to do so. My brainhalves must be miswired because I need "alone time" to digest what I feel.
someone2 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Yes, I am very much like that (I am a male in case you don't know). The funny thing, this sounds totally natural to me. I have never thought about it conciously until the OP brought it up. It is part of the differences that we have to learn to appreciate I guess. Also, it is different between different guys
4givrnt4gtr Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I wonder if guys even realize the havoc this reaction creates in the female mind.....Do you???
reboot Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I wonder if guys even realize the havoc this reaction creates in the female mind.....Do you???Well no, we men all enjoy causing women as much pain as possible. What kind of question is this?
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Women can accept and empower this behaviour, or move on to a guy who can communicate and doesn't need to hide away to digest his dinosaur haunch...
reboot Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Women can accept and empower this behaviour, or move on to a guy who can communicate and doesn't need to hide away to digest his dinosaur haunch...The problem with that theory is, few men are taught this during their upbringing. They have to either learn it on their own or be taught by some kind woman.
4givrnt4gtr Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Well no, we men all enjoy causing women as much pain as possible. What kind of question is this? Well i mean come one, seriously? its just that i find it hard to believe that guys cant even think for a second that such dissapearing acts are gonna hurt whoever they are with. Are they REALLY that differently wired that they cant even think to put themselves in the women's shoes? or is that something only women do....hm...
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 The problem with that theory is, few men are taught this during their upbringing. They have to either learn it on their own or be taught by some kind woman. Women aren't taught to express themselves either. So why do men need to be taught? Methinks too many mothers spoil their sons. I make my nephews express themselves when they come over. If they can't express their feelings, I can't and won't acknowledge them. Call me the aunt from Hell...
reboot Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Well i mean come one, seriously? its just that i find it hard to believe that guys cant even think for a second that such dissapearing acts are gonna hurt whoever they are with. Are they REALLY that differently wired that they cant even think to put themselves in the women's shoes? or is that something only women do....hm...You women have your own shortcomings we have to deal with. It's not a perfect world, and relationships take work. If you aren't willing to invest yourself into a relationship and work really hard at it, you should stay out of relationships. It's never the onus of only one person in a relationship to make it work. That means kindness and understanding on both sides. Not name calling and blame throwing.
Krytie TV Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Yes, of course there's some truth to it. But, I fail to see it as gender specific. I have know more than my share of women who pull away. It's human response, not just male.
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