Trackster Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 After we went out the fourth time, I got the cheek turn. Albeit, as she was leaving the car. We went out a 5th time, I didn't try for the kiss and got the same old, light hug as she left club (surfing, then dinner, then coffee, then club to see my friend's band). I plan on taking her out again, and again, and again. She did ask me out the second and fourth time, FWIW. I have tried to set up a romantic setting a several times with the intent on a kiss. I have been reading, and reading, and reading (so far Love Tactics has been the most pertinent). I have done all those things like light touching, looking at her like she is the last women on earth. We laugh a lot. She was even been in my hot tub in her underwear (cold shower, cold shower). I have never had love at first sight until this time. When she came running up to me at on the track and asked me a question about the workout, we started giggling because she couldn’t understand me (she is from Spain), that was it. I just knew. What to do, what to do. I feel like I am going to crack, but I have been following my new found rules and I have been keeping it light and easy. No proclamations of love. Some subtle positive comments about her… as the situation lends itself. I open the car door for her, all the other doors. I have NOT been treating her like a friend though I understand a friendship needs to be built. Backround Me: - Recently divorced (married 10 yrs.) - Young kid (2.5 yrs.old) 50% time with me - 37 yrs.old Backround Her: - On an engineering assignment for her company for 1 year to 18 monthes - 26 yrs.old - Her words when we met: “I have been here for 10 days. I decided to come here since I had nothing at home.” Though she invades my personal space and will stare with me eye to eye and other little things, her body language seems to be guarded the more romantic the situation. Could her situation be weighing down on her? She has mentioned she fears for the project she is working on and would have to go back. Since it is a goverment project in the area, I kinda doubt that, but what do I know. - Should I stay on the track I am on where I won’t try to kiss her unless it is a slam dunk. Wait it out which may mean it stays this way (no kiss) after months and 20 dates. - Say something that reveals a little more about how I feel about her. Intent here would be to make her feel more comfortable. However, that is exactly what I am not supposed to do, so I have read (and from personal experience where I was the runner on several occasions.) - Step up proclamations of how beautiful she is? Suggestions? I will ask her out on a day trip with my son whom she has not met. We almost did this trip before, so it won’t be so out of the blue.
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