bat out of purgatory Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 There's a woman I met at work a couple of months back...I wasn't drawn to her straight away, but over time I became more and more attracted to her. Now I'm trying to figure out if she is interested in me and how I should approach the situation. My circumstances at the moment are...quite unique, so I'll explain the relevant bits. At work we would mess with each other's chairs and hide each other's stuff. It was really funny. Like I'd be sitting down and all of a sudden my chair would sink...and then some other time I'd turn around and kick the lever on her chair to do the same thing. The first week I met her, we were discussing alcohol and she said we should have a drinking contest sometime. To which I agreed. We went and got lunch together once (her invitation - btw it's the kinda company where everyone goes and does their own thing at lunchtime) , but we ended up working funny shifts so there wasn't much opportunity after that. I was really thinking it was going somewhere, but then two things happened - she told this other girl we sat with about this guy she used to be involved with who had just emailed her and she was really excited, when I was present, and as I understand it they're seeing each other now - at least, I heard they were a couple of weeks back. How casually I have no idea. On the plus side, she never once discussed boyfriends with me directly. The other thing was that she had a conversation with the same girl, again in my earshot, about how they don't bother making an effort with their appearance to come to work because "there are no fit guys here". Actually that really pissed me off. But then just over three weeks ago I shattered my left shin bone in a motorcycle accident, which will leave me on crutches for at least another six months. I'm pretty lucky to be alive considering what happened, and I had surgery, giving me an external fixation (like a metal tube with screws drilled through the leg into the bone). She was pretty shocked to hear about it, and although we never exchanged phone numbers my number was passed around the company for me to call and she called me on a daily basis for a few days after the accident from her home phone. She was really supportive and she had offered to come round at the weekend and cook me my favourite meal (she lives the other side of London to me, so it's quite a journey). About this time she started calling me "hon" and "darling". The last time we spoke we were a fairly personal discussion and she had just told me that despite being happy and crazy and manic etc. she is actually a pretty sad and lonely person. Then I had to go as the doctor was over to see me, so I said I had to go, and "I'll call you later ok sweetie?". She laughed and said ok...I was pretty sure it was a laugh of joy. Then I didn't hear from her for a few days including over the weekend I was hoping she would come and see me and she didn't answer her phone, but my company sent me a card - with a handwritten note from her enclosed (her first language is German, which explains some of the odd expressions). It reads: "Hi ..., Sorry that I have not been in touch lately. I was (?) busy and hardly @ home. Hope you are much better and can enjoy a little the 'nothing doin'! This week is crazy too and I think it will go on for the next 2-3 weeks. But it is fine - it's all fun stuff. So darling, speak to you soon! Get better soon! ...." I haven't heard from her since then, that was nearly two and a half weeks ago. It's a really unusual thing to do, I'm sure she could find the time to call me but it's obviously not because she doesn't want to - otherwise, why the note? I thought maybe she was testing me to write back, but I don't have her address. Just to clarify, I'm practically housebound at the moment. This whole turn of events is really confusing, and I'm not really sure how I should take it or what I should do next. Seems she's telling me one thing and then the opposite. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Lovegod Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Don't stick your dink in the company ink. If it doesn't work out, you'll be put in an awkward position since you work so close to her. Date OUTSIDE of the workplace.
Author bat out of purgatory Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 It's only a temp job, and it'll be the best part of a year before I'm able to work there again anyway. The only practical ways to get across London are motorcycle and train, and I can't use either in my condition. I doubt we'll ever work together again.
Lovegod Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Well if that's the case, set up a date next time she calls... if she ever calls again. Don't put too much hope on that one either, just jump at the opportunity when it presents itself. If you fail to do so, then you'll miss out on a LOT of opportunities in your lifetime.
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