Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 My lovely wonderful and amazing boyfriend keeps teasing me about how completely unromantic I am. And, hmmm, he may be right, since I have no idea what romance is or how to go about doing romantic things for him. Guys, what is romance for you? Is it important? What can a woman do to 'romance' her partner?
melodymatters Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 In my experience the best way to show romance and warmth is to be nurturing. Guys don't want flowers and candy, but one guy kept talking about his favorite childhood peanut butter and jelly sandwich, so I brought him all the fixings, Another was very busy and needed tennis shoes, so i got him a couple of pairs. I know this guy is a major chef, so cooking for him would be HARD, but thats another way. Just little sweet nurturing things paired with a romantic card or note is my best guess !
nicki Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Just be thoughtful and remember little things he might want or need. Lighten his load if he is busy by helping him get things done. Surprise him with favorite sports or music tickets. Maybe compliment him more on how smart, how hot he is, and how handy he is with his hands (As in, "Wow, you did a great job replacing that light bulb. You are the BEST handyman! ) And, "bump, bump, bump" a LOT more. Oh, and give him more oral sex. I think when a guy says be more "romantic," he means, "Please give me more oral." (Just kidding, but it can't hurt.)
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I used to love it when my ex would bring me lunch at work! Absolutely loved it, especially if she came by looking all cute and all my coworkers would tell me how lucky I was to find such a great girl. It made me feel really special. Also, just suggest you two do things that he likes together. If she told me one saturday "hey babe, i want to go for a mtn bike ride tomorrow. let's go. i'll make a picnic. :)" that would literally make my whole week.
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Yes bump bump bump. It'd be nice if a guy could chip in! Oh, and give him more oral sex. I think when a guy says be more "romantic," he means, "Please give me more oral." (Just kidding, but it can't hurt.) LOL... but then, I am plenty romantic!
oppath Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I'm not the most romantic of boyfriends because I've been naively romantic in the past and got burned, and in my last official relationship, she did ask "can you be more romantic?", but there were issues with her ex that were keeping me at a distance, such as me not meeting some of her friends because they were best friends with him, and she didn't want his feelings to be hurt that she was dating someone so soon after a 5 year relationship. In hindsight, that meant she was not ready for a relationship. The relevancy: how romantic I am is contigent upon things in the relationship. I would have been more romantic with that girlfriend if she made me more visible. So in general, I don't know how to romance a woman, other than little "thinking of you" emails or sending photos with my camera phone saying "wish you were here to see this with me." As a guy...bring me something from the grocery store when you come over...stuff like that. Have sex with me while I'm watching my game on TV, and tell me "watch the game!!!!" I don't want to be romanced, I just want to know that you are thinking of me, often without being told "I miss you so much." Sometimes sending links to websites or wikipedia articles I might like is the way to do this. It shows that you are thinking of me and my interests.
jerbear Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Bump, Bump, Bump..... Don't forget to scream yes, yes, yes Just be thoughtful and remember little things he might want or need. Lighten his load if he is busy by helping him get things done. Surprise him with favorite sports or music tickets. Something else I would suggest, in additional to lighten his load is to help him unload... Depending on the work, I suggest going to his work place around lunch time, flash him and say this is for desert; right now it is munch time. An ex did that for me in the past, a love note sent by mail. It was something unexpected.
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Thanks guys for all the input... I think I am starting to get it. do little things that show him that I think about him. He does love it when I bring back stuff especially for him from the grocery store, I sent a link to a website once and he loved it, and hmmm, I guess I could go suprise him at work with "dessert". Any other ideas? I have a long weekend off this weekend and I would really like to take advantage to do something special for him.
gonetildecember Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I sent my bf a random package in the mail... in a shark shaped box (inside joke)..and random things i knew he would like.. a card, a snickers bar, a book he'd been talking about that would help him with class.. he really loved it.
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Thanks guys for all the input... I think I am starting to get it. do little things that show him that I think about him. He does love it when I bring back stuff especially for him from the grocery store, I sent a link to a website once and he loved it, and hmmm, I guess I could go suprise him at work with "dessert". Any other ideas? I have a long weekend off this weekend and I would really like to take advantage to do something special for him. "dessert" is a wonderful idea! on top of that, maybe send him a pix message of your cleavage in the middle of the day or something, with a note that says "just thinking about you :)" we love this kinda stuff
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Do you guys like when we go out of our way to look nice for you? From underwear to make up and all? Does that count as romance?
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I'm not a fan of make-up in general, but I love fun stuff like that. Wearing something sexy to bed for no reason is great, and getting dressed up is wonderful when we know it's for us.
PinkWall Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Oh, and give him more oral sex. I think when a guy says be more "romantic," he means, "Please give me more oral." (Just kidding, but it can't hurt.) no kidding, that is EXACLY what we mean. Do you guys like when we go out of our way to look nice for you? From underwear to make up and all? Does that count as romance? yes
Krytie TV Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Guys, what is romance for you? Is it important? What can a woman do to 'romance' her partner? A blowjob while wearing a rose in your hair would pretty much get me in a romantic mood.
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 A blowjob while wearing a rose in your hair would pretty much get me in a romantic mood. Right! the rose was what was missing from all previous bjs!
jerbear Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Do you guys like when we go out of our way to look nice for you? From underwear to make up and all? Does that count as romance? Skip the underwear. Better yet, wear a skirt/dress, goto the restroom, take the underwear off, put it in a bag and give it to him OR just hand it to him.
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Skip the underwear. Better yet, wear a skirt/dress, goto the restroom, take the underwear off, put it in a bag and give it to him OR just hand it to him. Good pointer! How could I forget! hmmm, my weekend plans are taking shape!
PinkWall Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 now all the guys are mixing up their fantasys for romance which brings us the point that men and women idea of romance is totaly different. If you want to turn him on you dont use romance. Romance is used by guys to turn you women on.
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 now all the guys are mixing up their fantasys for romance which brings us the point that men and women idea of romance is totaly different. If you want to turn him on you dont use romance. Romance is used by guys to turn you women on. Ba da bing... Men = Sex Women = Romance
jerbear Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Good pointer! How could I forget! hmmm, my weekend plans are taking shape! Lucky him! Thanksgiving is early this year! :lmao: I would suggest doing this at the restaurant.
PinkWall Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Lucky him! Thanksgiving is early this year! :lmao: i think she she was being sarcastic. Ba da bing... Is that a sopranos take on men vs women
Author Kamille Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Yeah ok sure, but I find myself in the position of having to clarify that my bf actually does distinguish between romance and sex which is what has me confused. And that is why I started this thread. Apparently, some men enjoy romance. But what I'm thinking is to plan out a special evening 'all about him'. which will most definitely include sexual innuendos and more... way much more
Timberlane Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Ba da bing... Men = Sex Women = Romance Yeah, yeah, yeah. One of the most romantic things my ex-wife did for me was to give me a nice card after we were dating for a few months. She just wanted to tell me how special I was to her and how I made her feel happy. No occasion, just out of the blue. I still have the card, actually. I also would love it when a girlfriend bought me a present for no reason. Simpler things were like making dinner together and having it on the patio by candle light. We used to do that a lot. Sundays might be sex in the morning until we got hungry and went out for breakfast. Now that's romance.
Lovegod Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Guys, what is romance for you? A new chainsaw. I can't help but fall in love when I see one with a long bar and a super sharp blade What can a woman do to 'romance' her partner? Oh, you mean women! Well, you could vaccum the rug in lingerie, serve dinner buck naked - well, maybe put on some whipped cream for desert afterward, strip tease to Megadeth, and wash my car in your bikini.
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