scottydog Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I tend to read posts from girls complaining about their boyfriends not giving them enough attention, appreciation, etc. Are there any guys out there who do not get enough attention, appreciation from their girlfriends? Or do guys just end up looking for it elsewhere? I feel like I put in 110% in my relationship whereas my girlfriend of 6 months puts in less. Don't get me wrong, she's wonderful but she's also not as emotionally available. I tend to be the one making plans all the time, letting her know how I feel about her, etc. Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking to be showered with affection, but I need to have motivation/reasons to keep doing the things I do. Otherwise, I run out of ideas or steam. Sometimes, I hear girls complaining that their guy stops doing nice things for them after a certain time period. Could it be that the girl isn't putting much into the relationship too? As for me, I'd like a girl to do nice things for me here and there to show me how she feels about me. I only see it as fairness in the relationship.
Krytie TV Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 You're not alone. I haven't gotten enough attention or appreciation in a relationship in 5 years. We make our choices though. Time to make better choices.
Star Gazer Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Can I ask what she doesn't do for you that you wish she would? Educate us lazy girlfriends...
Timberlane Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Well if we have to tell you... Harumph! Actually, I could be happy with a little less complaining. The other day I was at a bar with some friends and this girl came in to meet a mutual friend of ours it turned out. She sat down next to me and started talking to my friend between us. I overheard the conversation about her boyfriend. Apparantly, he was sort of bothered that she wouldn't talk about how her day was on a regular basis. She was annoyed that she felt pressed upon to show emotions on demand. I thought the reversal of roles was quite remarkable.
Newbie2Love Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I feel the exact same way, she gives me nothing to pursue the relatioship
CrazyPanda Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 yea, sometimes i feel unappreciated. I would go out of my way to buy things, plan things for her, and show her how much i [loved] her. but you know, she just never gave as much effort in the relationship as I did. Guys like us deserve better, or at least some kind of effort from our opposite side. Some girls just want to be spoiled and get all the attention, sadly they don't know how to do the same. My last relationship just didn't turn out that way, don't keep on doing something you're beginning to dread. I realize I started to not care/give as much affection since not much was being returned. In the end, she ended the relationship with me because another guy gave her the affection she wanted. She got the better end of the deal. Showered with affection and once it was gone, left and found another leaving poor me in the depression mode. Don't let that happen to you.
Timberlane Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 It's a pretty sad thing when you are in a relationship that is one-sided more or less. But hopefully we are just talking about feeling unappreciated from time to time, and not all of the time. Because if it's all of the time, hey, I aint got no time for that. That's some depreciation.
amaysngrace Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 I think sometimes people get comfy in the relationship so they slack off. It would probably help if you tell your GFs 'I loved when you did this for me' as a little reminder. It can't hurt. But yeah it sucks for anyone to feel like they're being taken for granted.
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