SOS_Please Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Well, this situation has to do with a privious thread that I posted month or so ago on here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t132697/ Okay, so here's the deal (in a nut-shell): my best girl friend and my guy friend (who is dating my best girl friend, but was interested in me before he started dating her) continued dating, although he spent the night with me (nothing sexual happened--I'm just stating), and told me that he wanted to be with someone less experienced than her (i.e. someone like me), etc. Well, their relationship has been on the rocks for awhile now, but he keeps telling her that he wants a real relationship (of course, this contradicts what he tells me), and she keeps telling him she just wants to casually date. Okay, so on to the current situation: this past weekend (my best friend was away on business) my guy friend and I go out drinking with his other guy friend. Well, we all got completely smashed, and drove back to his house. He gets into bed, and tells me I can sleep with him (his bed is a queen and his other guy friend was sleeping on the couch). Well, we've slept together before without doing anything, so I thought it would be fine. Actually, I wasn't doing much thinking...I was drunk. However, my reasoning seemed sound at the time. So, we got into bed, and were about to fall asleep, when we kissed. I really don't remember how it happened, but it did: we kissed. No, it was more than that: we made out. Well, he wanted to take it farther, but I told him that we needed to think about my best friend/his girlfriend and stop. So, he got mad, rolled over, and went to sleep. The next morning, we could hardly talk. Granted, nothing else happened, but that was enough! So, we decided to not tell my best friend/his girlfriend until the right time. Well, I haven't been able to look at her without freaking out for the past couple of days, so I finally told her. But before I go into that, it is important that I tell you some other things about the guy friend: Okay, so he tells me that he really likes me, and if he weren't dating my best friend/his girlfriend that he would like to date me. So, I proceed to tell him that that could never happen anyway, because I know that he has had feelings for her, etc. Anyway, before I told her, they had a talk about keeping their relationship "casual," which is something that he apparently (according to what he told her, anyway) didn't want. Okay, so he tells her, after all that happened with us, that he wants to spend quality time with her. Seriously? How much quality could there be in a relationship based on LIES?! Okay, so on to the story: I told her tonight, and she was (obviously and understandably) crushed. She called him, and told him off for making her feel badly about not wanting to be serious with him, when he had screwed around with her best friend. So, she is extremely hurt by my stupid actions, but says that she can forgive me (because we have been BEST friends, like sisters, for years now), but she can't forgive him. My question is this: where do we all go from here? I mean, we all use to just be freinds, and then he started dating her, and it all went downhill from there. He is a piece of crap for asking me out, dating her, then screwing around with me, and finally making her feel like crap for not wanting to be serious with him. I am a piece of crap for falling for my guy friend after he became interested in my best friend (especially since I could have had him ages ago, when he asked me out!), then screwing around with him the first drunken chance I got, and then waiting three days to tell my best friend about it. She seems like a betrayed person, who deserves our sympathy in this situation (and that may be so); however, she broke up with her boyfriend of nearly a year to "casually date" this guy, and she KNEW that he liked me from day one, AND she was planning on going out with other guys while dating my guy friend! So, I don't know why she feels all betrayed (when she has been seeing other people too), except that it was me--her best friend--who he decided to "see." I don't know. I am not saying she is the one to blame here (she's obviously not), but I don't think any of us are all that innocent. Is it at all possible to be friends again? I mean, I haven't spoken with him yet, since all this has gone down, and she says that she needs time, but loves me. I personally still have feelings for him. She told me that she knows that we both like eachother, so we are welcome to date, if we want. Of course, even though I like him now, I can't date him, because I will know that he cheats, lies, has been with my best friend, would have chosen her over me (if given the opportunity), etc. So, I could never date him. She says, though she can fogive me (because I am her best friend), that she can never forgive him. So, obviously, that changes the dynamic of our relationship. I really love her, and I like him. What do I do? Is there anything I can do? Stop being friends with him, and try to work out her and my relationship? Or should I try to salvage all of our relationships? Please help me! I just want to die at this point.
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