dancinggal Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 We have a great relationship, but I am so BORED! I know its just the distance (when we are together, everything is so perfect) but I feel almost like our relationship is on hold. I am extremely busy in my life, I work full time and study part time, on top of a very active social life and lots of dance classes, but I am just bored with our relationship the way it is. Anyone have any ideas on how to spice things up? Make things a little interesting when there is no possibility of seeing each other for 4 months? Am going crazy with the frustration of it all!
Author dancinggal Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Actually, I know what I need. I need romance! I need him to make the effort he used to make when we were together. Like, buying champagne for me when it was one of those nights we spent infront of the TV with take away (my favourite memories are of those nights, not very glam, but very fun). Its not like I need flowers, just something like that, you know? I know its hard from so far away, but I need something, otherwise it feels like we aren't even in a relationship, just friends who say they love each other a lot. How on earth do I get him to do that? Ideas, please, particularly from the male variety on this bored (though of course everyone is more than welcome to come to my party, lol).
4whatItsWorth Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 The effort usually fades once you become "safe" in the relationship...why don't YOU tell him what YOU want? He's no mindreader. If you want romance...do what Carla did with Turk in "Scrubs" and create your OWN romance! Do something romantic for HIM! Why is it HE should be romantisizing you, a one-way street? I send my fiancé videos, sound-clips and cute e-cards to spice things up! Whenever I get a new haircut or clothes, I take a photo and sends it to him to keep him up to date with my life! (Then there is always webcam sex, if that's what floats your boat!) If you get bored that easily, it's not a very good future forecast for the love rain...
Author dancinggal Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 I don't have ADD (lol), but its been over 4 months now, and its just like, what's happening with our relationship? Ok, I'll try romancing him, hmm, though his idea of romance would be me buying him KFC to eat when the football is on, lol.
Aussie65 Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 well,i have one of those too...im affraid it's either in them or it's not.We reached our 12 month anniversary on the weekend for when we met and he didn't even want to do anything...I had to pretty much push him to take me out. Like me,you might have to just spice things up....he doesn't sound like the romantic type hun and mines not either. I have a nice porch,I made up a beautiful dinner one night out there,table cloth and candles...it was so romantic!...the porch I did up like a restaurant balcony.....you know,.I really did not seem that enthusiastic lol...what can I say,they have either got it or they don't and it's hard to make them be romantic when it's not in them.
Author dancinggal Posted November 19, 2007 Author Posted November 19, 2007 Aww, that sounds lovely! I hope he appreciates it!!! Actually, its probably my fault. I've made him lazy. I was 20 when we started going out, and said I wasn't really into romance, like I didn't want him to buy me flowers or stuff like that. Just wanted to hang out and have a good time. I know he is kind of romantic at least because he said his last girlfriend was really into that stuff and he turned up where she worked with flowers and gave them to her, a kiss, and then just left without saying anything. Thats kind of sweet, but I don't really need that when we are together. But now that we are apart, I'm like, I need something. Plus, I'm 22 now (he's 26) and I'm feeling like I'm growing up, and maybe I'm more into that stuff now? I don't know.
Nevermind Posted November 19, 2007 Posted November 19, 2007 Ah, yes. We have to chose our words carefully, when dealing with the men in our lives. I never liked it when he was buying me something for valentines day while I was standing right next to him. I wanted to be surprised and I never wanted him to feel obliged to buy me anything. I think you should just give presents when you really want to yourself. However, he is now completely uninterested in buying me anything without my actual consent. So, I ended up with no surprises and less gifts. Serves me right.
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