heggs Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Hey all since i been around i had a new gf. Well today she ended it, i know alotta ppl are going through this. Anyways the story was I meet this beuatiful Girl she was all i needed and wanted. Anyways 3 months into i started hearing all these stories about her she told me they wernt true and as i am stuburn i didnt belive her which was a mistake and i started asking her if she was guy feeling so insecure. At about 4 months we split for a day i went to pick all my stuff up from hers. her dad confronted me saying im a slimy little **** and since that day i havent been welcome at hers.. continung not to trust her and ask questions she told me today its over. Tonight shes coming to see me for the last time hand some of my clothes back and some other junk i know im gonna ball my eyes out i loved her and now im lost. Does anyone got any suggestions
wlminfla Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Hey Man, I'm sorry to hear about that. That's the problem with outside voices and influences. Unless they are from people that you really trust, you have to just let them go. Don't even let them go in one ear and out the other. Unfortunately, with the dads influence and the current state of things, there's not a whole you can do except to take your man pill, andsay exactly what you wanna say to her (be strong and sincere). You'll be glad you did. Don't leave any questions in your heart. Say what you have to say...ask what you have to ask and then let it be done. You will have done everything you can. From there, feel sad when you have to. After that, look out ladies :-)
Author heggs Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Ok well last night she gave me another chance i said one last go so i took it.. so today i was meant to go to her formal pics.. about 2 hours before the pics she called it off saying she dosent love me the way she use too. i broke down crying to my mum and she took me to the docs go some anti dep. I check her msn i knew her passwords and she had added her ex back onto her msn so i was sus on this i knew somthing was up. Where do i go from here i still love her will she come back or should i just give up? I also tryed to call and her sister answers. SHe also answered well her friend did i went i go mad called her a skank because she led me on. Shes never comin back oh well
alwayshurt Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I feel for you, man but you have to let go of her and disappear from the face of earth. At least as much as it concerns to her. Try to quit your pills and do something good for yourself. Join a gym...it helps. Your good mood will come back faster than you can expect. Hang in there...as hard as it seems to you (right now) it is not the end of the world.
LoveLace Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 I know exactly how you feel, I am going through a similar sitch. I want to be friends too...but in reality that's not letting go. Call it corny...but that Madonna song inspires me..."There's no greater power than the power of good-bye"....
Author heggs Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 She deleted everything just like she never loved me at all i hate this.. i just cant explain it
Author heggs Posted November 14, 2007 Author Posted November 14, 2007 Well weve stoped talkin i miss her madly i have a feeling theres another guy. She tells me if i trusted her from the start she would not of left.. and she says she can not be in a r/s atm cause she needs to sort her life out, and that fact i cant go to hers is another reason. Is there any chance she will come back after everything i want her back she told me she can only give her heart to one person and thats me. its life a false pretense. Will she even miss me what we had , what we did together, or anything? also when i rang her i heard her in the back ground, yelling out its over. love lace also do u have a few mins i can talk to u over msn or somthing??
spiggetywicks Posted November 14, 2007 Posted November 14, 2007 Yo man, you need to settle down a little. Of course you're in the panic stage asking the "what if's" when should be asking "what shoulds". What should I do to not look like a obsessed ex, what should I be doing to get my mind off this, what should I do to make her realise that I am ok with her decision. What should I do if she comes back. Its time to start thinking about you. Time to be selfish. Don't hurt yourself more than you should. Things didn't work out. It wasn't the right time. If its meant to be it will be. Timing is everything. Just know that we don't have any control over things we can't control. Think about that everytime you think of her. No whining or pleading is going to get her back. Just think about yourself before you were with her. What was it in your personality that made her come to you. Just be yourself. There will be another lady out there. And don't think that this is the one that you want to spend your life with. You are just in a state of rejection and neglect and feel like she betrayed you. I went through this same thing with my now ex. Its been 5 years of leaving and coming back. How I do it? Don't call her, don't text her back. Continue my normal everyday functions. Its hard I know. I have missed the past 5 days of work cause she left me again. The first week is always the hardest. I'd go release your anger towards her on something else. Go run 15 miles so you get so tired that you fall asleep. She MAY come back, MAY realise that she loves you and wants to be with you. But May is not Will. Just act like it doesn't bother her. Don't go places she'll go. Hang out with friends and act upbeat. It will get back to her that you're fine. Be a man. Take care little buddy.
alwayshurt Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 Yo man, you need to settle down a little. Of course you're in the panic stage asking the "what if's" when should be asking "what shoulds". What should I do to not look like a obsessed ex, what should I be doing to get my mind off this, what should I do to make her realise that I am ok with her decision. What should I do if she comes back. Its time to start thinking about you. Time to be selfish. Don't hurt yourself more than you should. Things didn't work out. It wasn't the right time. If its meant to be it will be. Timing is everything. Just know that we don't have any control over things we can't control. Think about that everytime you think of her. No whining or pleading is going to get her back. Just think about yourself before you were with her. What was it in your personality that made her come to you. Just be yourself. There will be another lady out there. And don't think that this is the one that you want to spend your life with. You are just in a state of rejection and neglect and feel like she betrayed you. I went through this same thing with my now ex. Its been 5 years of leaving and coming back. How I do it? Don't call her, don't text her back. Continue my normal everyday functions. Its hard I know. I have missed the past 5 days of work cause she left me again. The first week is always the hardest. I'd go release your anger towards her on something else. Go run 15 miles so you get so tired that you fall asleep. She MAY come back, MAY realise that she loves you and wants to be with you. But May is not Will. Just act like it doesn't bother her. Don't go places she'll go. Hang out with friends and act upbeat. It will get back to her that you're fine. Be a man. Take care little buddy. listen to this man my friend. We all have been there and went through what you are going through now. Obsession is not going to get her back. Ther is nothing you can do at the moment. You have no control on her, nor on the situations that are happening to you causing such a pain. So just relax, sit down and enjoy the movie. Eventually, there will be another good scene that will cheer you up. Be strong.
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