xplicyt Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Hi, completely new to this but I could not find another thread with a similar situation. Met a wonderful woman about 3 months ago. We really hit it off from the start. She is a single mother (one daughter)...and I had no prior experience with women with children. We started as friends...and we each dated some other people. She developed feelings for me (I sensed it but was not sure) but she was not sure I would feel the same way about her. She also later admitted to being afraid of losing me as a friend if I did not feel the same way about her as she did about me. Well, I developed feelings for her but was worried about moving too fast with a child in the picture. She did not know. Here's where it gets messy. Another guy she went on a few dates with asked her if she was interested in a relationship. She stalled briefly and tried to contact me but I was unreachable for a few days due to a family emergency. She eventually said she would be interested but had reservations. He said he had reservations too. Only a day or two later, we talked and found out how we both really felt about each other. She said she wished she would not have said alright to him...knowing I felt the same way about her as she does about me. To complicate matters further, I also know the guy...and he is a good guy...but we both really like each other. Normally, I would have turned and ran away long ago! I truly feel there is something seriously special about this one (and I know that probably gets said a lot around here). But there is way too much that is good, healthy, positive and working between us. I have told her I refuse to be second place and that I will continue to date other people. But we continue to spend time together (she will often ask me out to events and always seems to be available for me), and it's quite obvious we are getting closer. She mentioned gradually transitioning our relationship. She has always been honest and open with me...and I do not believe she is "stringing me along" (she knows me well enough to know I would never allow that). We both really feel like we are in a bind with this situation. Does our current approach seem reasonable? Any comments, experiences, feelings, thoughts...would be much appreciated!
SuperFantastico Posted November 24, 2007 Posted November 24, 2007 I see no problem with this approach. Basicaly you waited a bit too long. Last year i had a chance with this amazingly gorgeous girl. I left the club early, and the next night a guy asked her out. They've been dating ever since. Imagine that. I missed it by one day. I'd be that guy right now As long as you keep dating, i see no problem. Keep your options open, but dont hold out for her. If she really likes you she'd dump him and be with you. People are funny that way. They always like it safe. So dont be a chump and stick around waiting. There are lots of awesome ladies out there. Good luck.
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