Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Ok, so my last post talks about being devastated, not knowing how to get through this but now I am going NC- militant style as deadmansfloat suggested. I can't move on if I am in contact.. So.. how many of you have been successful in not checking myspace, facebook, deleting IM's. I have looked at his IM a dozen times today and thankfully he has not been on. But I have shown some restraint in the fact I haven't looked up his new gf's myspace, which I did everyday for a while. Pure torture I haven't sent any emails, I haven't texted. Please tell me this get's easier.. What has been your experiences? Who has actually just cut if off cold turkey, succeeded in maintaining zero contact (even from cyberspace) and how do you feel today? Thanks for any input!!
sedgwick Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I haven't looked at anything having to do with him online since the day he broke up with me, July 16. I threw away all pictures of him on my computer that day. I took all of his stuff out of my apartment and gave it to charity or threw it away. I blocked his phone number, both his email addresses, and had a friend go to his myspace and hit "block user" so I didn't have to look at it. I blocked everything on Aug 28, which was our last phone conversation. I haven't listened to any music that sounds like his, used anything he gave me (I did keep a camera and a bellydance belt he gave me, but they're packed in a box out of sight), or ANYTHING having to do with him in any way at all in nine weeks. I would like to know if he's tried to contact me, but not if it means contacting him. I know if I looked at anything having to do with him online I would break down. I am the warrior viking goddess of NC and would like to be regarded as such.
wowIlose Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I still have her on facebook and msn but as far as contact goes I have made non. I unblocked her for 15 minutes of msn to show her that I can log on and not have to speak to her than I blocked her again lol.. Its been 15 days today of absolutely 0 contact but I still look at her profile once in a while, either way she doesn't know that and it has gotten a bit easier since day 1 of NC. As long as you feel your making progress than your fine.
minerva63 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 wow- i like that you did that. sounds like something i would do. i haven't spoken to my x in 16 days. make that 17 days since this one's almost over. it's still new enough that i track each and every day, but it yearning for contact does lessen with time. I did not keep anything that would allow me to contact him--removed his number from my phone, email address from my computer. But I have saved some personal thing though--emails, a t-shirt that still smells like him, some gitfts, etc.
KAGE_Chick Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I took everything that ment something to "us" and put in in a box and taped it shut. But I wasn't strong enough to go cold turkey. I am still trying to figure away to break away without hurting any more than I am. so far no luck.
ncpd25 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I've been NC for 2 months (almost to the day). I haven't blocked any email or phones. I figure if she called, I could ignore it (With caller ID). I kept nothing to remind me of her. I threw out things I had saved: concert ticket stubs etc...Unfortunately, I still have a few birthday presents that had for her but didn't give her as we broke up a couple of days before her birthday.They're still wrapped and in a closet. I gave away a framed, autographed picture of Martina Mcbride to someone I knew would appreciate it. I still have a framed, autographed picture of Jimmie Johnson (Nascar Driver). I may give that away as well. The only other thing I have is a 14k gold claddagh ring, I had shipped over to the U.S. from Ireland. I don't think I'm giving that away. Maybe I'll sell it. I don't think about the gifts as I don't see them (They're tucked away). One of these days, I'll "dispose of them" I still have moments when I feel like trash but, I feel as if I'm turning that corner and I'm feeling better with each passing day.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 As my celeb friend Johnny Vaughan stated on his breakfast radio show just the other day, facebook is only in place so people can check up on their ex's and stalk them without them knowing. Kinda true really, he also said why do we do it when we know its just gonna cause us pain! Curiousity killed the cat. The is truth in that saying.
sedgwick Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I have noooo desire to look at my ex's myspace. No way. I'm still way too much in love with him. The only thing I can do to save my own sanity and pride is not talk to him or look at him or anything in any way, until I reach the point where I don't love him anymore.
Author Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Thanks guys. Yesterday I made it through the day with checking his IM occasionally. I didn't however, look at his new gf's myspace which is what I love to do to torture myself. As long as his photos aren't up there I thought it would be fine but as the saying goes out of sight.. well, definately not out of mind but at least there is no visual right there on my screen begging for me to remember he is with someone else. Today is a new day.. I am trying to avoid everything that reminds me of him although I do sleep in an old tshirt of his.. I am getting there. You guys really give me hope!
Author Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Quick question: How do you know if you have been blocked? Or what happens when you block someone?
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 You can't see if they are online or not, and visa versa, that is it.
Author Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Sorry, but does that mean they still show up as a buddy but you can't tell whether they have logged on? Or that they wouldnt' show up anymore on my buddy list.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Sorry, but does that mean they still show up as a buddy but you can't tell whether they have logged on? Or that they wouldnt' show up anymore on my buddy list. If you have been blocked they will always appear offline. If you block you will always appear off line if OP has not blocked you can see if they are online if you have not deleted them. For the sake of NC and yourself, just block and delete you'll save yourself alot of pain and agony if you do this. I did within about 5days, never unblocked or undeleted since. Its not worth playing these games.
Author Newtotheblogthing Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Ah, thanks I was just thinking the same thing.. Will do.
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