chocochippie92 Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Alright i'm in highschool and i've had this boyfriend for a little over 5 months now. He's extremely handsome and is very nice to me most of the time. I only get to see him once a week because he doesn't like going to school. He barely calls me and never goes to any dances with me. He didn't get me a birthday present because he claims that he's saving up for it but he's known that my birthday has been comming up for months. Every time he sees me he tells me how hes in love with me and will love me forever. Then when when were sitting alone watching movies and stuff his hands tend to travel even when i tell him no. I think i love the guy but i'm not sure if it would be better if i didn't go out with him at all. I have no clue what to think! Anyone have any adivce?
gonetildecember Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 How old are you guys? He only comes to school once a week? That's a little odd, and isn't really a smart choice, but that's another topic. You don't see each other out of school? The fact that he doesn't call you or go out with you just makes it sound even worse. Does he answer when you call? IMO it just seems like he's thoughtless and not really bf material. He doesn't spend time with you, call you or show that he's invested in your relationship. Apart from the fact that he doesn't go to school and doesn't respect you when you say no (BIG RED FLAG)... i just generally think he isn't worth your time. It's all well and good for him to tell him he loves you, but if he isn't showing it with his ACTIONS instead of just saying it with WORDS.. it could all be just that.. Talk. Like really.. what attracts you to this guy? It doesn't seem like YOU are getting anything out of the relationships.. You've told me a lot of the disadvantages.. what are the advantages keeping you with him?
sally4sara Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 He sounds like a typical disrespectful, give as little as he has too teenage boy. Will you be a typical low-self esteem, accepting of crumbs just because some cute guy gives you the time of day teenage girl? Choose wisely because it will set the tone for EVERY future relationship you have. If you don't set the bar high now, you won't feel like you deserve better treatment later even when you're old enough and wise enough to already know the answer to your posted question. He isn't good enough for you girl, no matter how cute he is.
Author chocochippie92 Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 I'm almost 16. We had been going out for 2 months starting last January but i had broken up with him then because he was being obsessive and calling me every second of his life. Now since we have started going out again. i have like the complete oppisite. It wasn't a bad breakup before so there really should be no reason for this. Hmmm i don't know. He seems like my best friend sometimes and makes me smile. Then other times he gets very moody.
gonetildecember Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Did you make it a big issue during the break up (that he called you too much and was obsessive) maybe he just doesn't know which to do now.. so its like at the extreme opposite because he's trying so hard to change from what it was like before. That really wasn't what bugged me though. if he's disrespecting you, he keeps going when you say no and especially the not being in school and not seeing you thing that is more of an issue in my opinion. Unless things drastically change and he starts showing you respect and kindess, ALL THE TIME.. regardless of when he's moody (like once in a while is fine.. but not if it is frequent) then I think you should Cut Your Losses! 15 is too young to have to deal with that sort of crap, you should NEVER have to deal with that sort of crap. good luck babe.
acrosstheroom Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Your waaayyyy too young to be having this issues with this guy. Your in high school, I bet there are plenty of other good looking guys that would like to date you. I say move on...I dated a lot in high school and I think it really helped me to become the person I am now. As for him being touchy feely, he is a teenage boy..almost all are going to be like that, you just have to make sure he understands the word "no". If it gets too out of hand and you want him to stop and he won't, scream...grab his precious area VERY HARD, scratch his face...I'm sure that will get him to stop. Good luck!
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