pinktiger Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Who are we punishing? Do the people who left us really care to stay in touch with us? They just got rid of the unwanted baggage. I have been struggled with NC or no NC for a month now. I still don't know what to do. One day I feel good, another day I would feel bad. Let's face it, nothing would make us feel better. Only time... sometimes, the time will not do it either. The wound will stay forever, it is going to hurt no matter what.
starlite Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Here's the thing...maybe they dont care...but if they dont, why do we want to contact them and let them know how much we care. It is more to me about keeping dignity. Before i found out my bf was cheating on me while we were together I wanted to contact him sometimes. Tell him I missed him (and i slipped by texting once), but since then I realized why let him know how i feel. He missed me too...but I would rather him believe I am moving on seeing as we do not work and now I know he was a cheating bastard! Anyway...if ur ex is moving on...not contacting you, DONT contact him. Keep your dignity. Never beg for someone to take you back either.
Amy22 Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 I agree with your post pinktiger, I feel the same way and you are right nothing will make us feel better. At least in my situation I have done both and they both make me feel like crap. Time is the only thing that will make us feel better and it stinks you can't make time go by faster so we can be happy.
tanbark813 Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 NC is not about punishing anyone. Agreed. NC is simply a way to heal. NC with a person is the same as not picking a scab. Just leaving it alone is the quickest way for it to heal.
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