bigheartkindsoul Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 He tells you he loves you within 3weeks. He lies (about the big stuff). His Mum babies him and makes you feel uncomfortable when visiting and talks about his last LT G/F over big family dinner in front of you. He tells you he wants to get married within about 1month. He tells you he wants babies within the next 2yrs (clearly he is not bothered about having them because of love just wants them). Anymore, cause I wanna know them all. Thanks
acrosstheroom Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 You find a hidden box of toothbrush's with different women's names on them when looking for more toilet paper. The above happened to a friend of mine last week! She always wondered why her toothbrush had a tape like residue on the handle. He used white medical tape with their name's on them and swapped them when a different girl was spending the night.
In Liquid Wonder Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 1. Doesn't take responsibility for how he uses his time. 2. Doesn't treat you well. 3. Doesn't respect when you say NO. 4. Any form of emotional/physical abuse is unacceptable! It doesn't matter who you are: you don't deserve it.
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 1. Men with lists rofl I second this.
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 1. Has a history of unstable and psycho exes-makes me think he gets something from the drama and being treated badly-therefore I will be dumped if I can't make him suffer the way they did 2. 90% of his myspace page are female friends-yuck!
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 1. Has a history of unstable and psycho exes-makes me think he gets something from the drama and being treated badly-therefore I will be dumped if I can't make him suffer the way they did 2. 90% of his myspace page are female friends-yuck! Has a myspace would be one
tanbark813 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Has a myspace would be one Dude, you have a myspace.
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Dude, you have a myspace. I was wondering if you'd notice that
Timberlane Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 rofl I second this. What are on these lists? The names of women he has been with?
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 What are on these lists? The names of women he has been with? A list of red flags. It's pretty lame IMO
Timberlane Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 A list of red flags. It's pretty lame IMO What if his list says: 1. don't talk to pretty girls if they are mean to you! You deserve a nice girl.
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 What if his list says: 1. don't talk to pretty girls if they are mean to you! You deserve a nice girl. Are you calling me a bitch?
Star Gazer Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 He lies (about the big stuff). WRONG. He lies...about anything. If he'll lie about something small, he'll lie about anything, big or small. Honesty is crucial.
Pedigree Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 His Mum babies him and makes you feel uncomfortable when visiting and talks about his last LT G/F over big family dinner in front of you. How is this a red flag? The problem seems to be the mother rather than the bloke himself.
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 WRONG. He lies...about anything. If he'll lie about something small, he'll lie about anything, big or small. Honesty is crucial. Really SG? You feel very strongly that an omission (lie) means that? What if when you find out the truth it was really not a cover up but just an avoidance of a whole topic? Sorry-vague..I guess that is a deal breaker for you? I am not sure if i believe that it could mean huge lies are behind it-what if it is a sore topic? And it only pertains to that topic?
Timberlane Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Are you calling me a bitch? Um, oh goodness. My word! Nevver.
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Um, oh goodness. My word! Nevver. hehe it's okay you're not in trouble, for now...
Star Gazer Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Really SG? You feel very strongly that an omission (lie) means that? What if when you find out the truth it was really not a cover up but just an avoidance of a whole topic? Sorry-vague..I guess that is a deal breaker for you? I am not sure if i believe that it could mean huge lies are behind it-what if it is a sore topic? And it only pertains to that topic? Deal-breakers are different than red-flags. Red-flags are huge warnings, not necessarily something to turn and walk on. That said, yes...a lie is a lie is a lie. A sore subject? Avoidance? Be a man and say just that - "Sorry, it's a sore subject for me, can we change the subject?" There's no need to be untruthful. Once I find out someone has lied to me - particularly about something little/minor - I find it very hard to trust them. Without trust, there is no relationship.
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 This is either the second or third red flag thread, in the last couple of days. One person's red flag is another person's point of attraction. Otherwise, why would men love biatches and women love bad boys. You decide what makes you happy or unhappy. Forget about everyone else's baggage and decide if you the composite man or woman makes it or breaks it for you.
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 This is either the second or third red flag thread, in the last couple of days. One person's red flag is another person's point of attraction. Otherwise, why would men love biatches and women love bad boys. You decide what makes you happy or unhappy. Forget about everyone else's baggage and decide if you the composite man or woman makes it or breaks it for you. Yeah-good advice, sometimes...I just want a book to tell me what to do. It's so hard to figure out without *rules*. I'm only half kidding.
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Yeah-good advice, sometimes...I just want a book to tell me what to do. It's so hard to figure out without *rules*. I'm only half kidding. A book is generic. Follow someone else's rules and you won't find happiness. For example, some women want to find the domineering type of guy. This way, they don't have to make any decisions in life. Some women would run away screaming from this kind of tyrant.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Yeah it is all different for everyone, like every post on here its interesting to get others points of views/experiences. Doesn't mean your going to use them. Trust is very important, and hard to get back as I learnt the very hardest way, with total heartbreak. Lies about how much a set of golf clubs were I don't give a shat about, I meant the big/important things other than little while lies we all tell, like I only ate two chocolates out of the tin, honest! Another Red Flag - being happy your cat (of 8yrs) moved in next door and having no compassion to your upset at this telling you he can't see you the next few days when you have just come out of surgery and still drowsy.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Never taking responsibility for their issues in a failed relationship- ie, blaming it on the "woman". Of course he was the perfect partner.
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