Things are messed up, what do I do?

[AlwaysLost]

My new BF (seeing each other 2.5 months and been exclusive 2 weeks) and I seem to have hit a rough patch. Due to weird circumstances we didnt see each other this weekend. Fri night I went out with my friends and Sat night he went with his. The prob is I said to him since we have a timing issue this weekend would you like to come and stay over after you go out with your friends on sat night. he said yes and would call, he didnt call until 2am and when I asked why he said he was hanging with his friends and he was goign to go to his house and talk to me on sunday. Well i was pissed and sent him a text message saying, "It is lame you called this late. I was trying to be sweet by having you over, i guess I learned my lesson. Honestly, I dont think you even like me" I know this was harsh, but it was 2am and I was pissed he didnt call earlier in the evening and just say things are gonna be late tonight, sorry but i will call you on sunday to get togther. Now I didnt hear from him all Sunday and I am miserable. I finaly broke down this morning and called (which he didnt answer) and left a nice message saying hi, i didnt hear from you yesterday and I hope that everything is ok, call me when you get this."

 

Is he pissed at me, over me, knows he messed up and doesnt know how to deal or just oblivious to the fact that this is even an issue.

 

What should i do next? I was thinking about an e-mail but that might be over kill, Any advice would be helpful. Thx

[acrosstheroom]

I wouldn't send him an email. Your text may have been a little harsh, maybe scared him off a bit, with you saying you don't even know if he likes you.

 

I would wait for him to call you back. He didn't call you Sunday, which he said he would do, you gave him call this morning, which is fine I would have done the same.

 

If he doesn't call or text you back by tomorrow, maybe Wednesday, I would leave another VM telling him that him not responding at all to your calls is childish and you deserve a call.

 

He could just be really hung over from the weekend. When I go out with my buddies, which is almost every weekend. We don't get back until 3-5AM. I do call people back though, so not sure what is up with him.

[gonetildecember]

Yup. I woldn't call. You put in effort by calling this morning.

 

Your text was kind of harsh, when I go out as well we get back pretty late, so maybe he was offended by what you said, and was hoping you would understand.

 

BUT, if he said he was going to call Sunday he should have at least called. Let him come to you now. don't email or anything. And like the other poster said, you don't hear from him by Wed, i would send a text or call then.

[Lovegod]

would you like to come and stay over after you go out with your friends on sat night. he said yes and would call, he didnt call until 2am

Well i was pissed and sent him a text message saying, "It is lame you called this late.

 

...and what time was he supposed to call you? You asked him to call, and he did. Don't get mad at him just because he called you at a time you didn't expect him to. He was busy, he told you he was busy, and you tried to get him to fit you into his busy schedule. He was even polite enough to call and tell you he couldn't make it. And his politeness isn't good enough for you?

 

His life doesn't revolve around YOU.

 

Honestly, I dont think you even like me"

 

That's a good way to make him love you.... Guilt trip him into it. Really smart.

 

Now I didnt hear from him all Sunday and I am miserable.

 

And rightly so. If that were me, I wouldn't call back ANY woman who's trying to control when I SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do something, and attempting to make me feel like I'm not living up to her expectations.

 

Bottom line, you were being a b1tch and you got what you deserved. If you want to salvage anything out of this, call him and apologize. Otherwise, learn from your mistake and move on.

[jcster]

It never works to try and wedge in together time after a night out with friends. I've never known it to work out well. You need to chill out and stop reading so much into what is just everyday life. And...I'd apologize for your text message, it was rude.