starlite Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Well- My ex and I broke up a month ago. He is already sleeping with someone...his best friends ex...needless to say they are no longer best friends. I had suspisions he cheated on me with her and now I know he did. Then out of spite my ex's ex best friend added in that not only was he sleeping with her, but he had cheated on me with two different girls in the first year of us being together. One was a one time thing and the other happend repeatedly. Who knows how many others there were in 2.5 years. Mind you, I ended up seeing counselors so I could better myself for him. He lied to me, blamed it on me and then told me that if I wanted to stay with him I needed to stop being insecure and untrusting. What a F'ing jerk!!!!!
KenzieAbsolutely Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 chalk it up to a lesson learned. you're not with him anymore, and this new information may hurt a lot, but at least you know he is not worth the sadness and pain of most breakups. consider it a blessing that you are no longer with this jerk.
sedgwick Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Oh god, I had a bf like this once...I am SOOOOO glad he left me and I'm done with him! With all my other exes, every single one of them, I'd be happy to see them if they showed up today. This guy, he could be drowning and I'd have to think seriously about reaching out my hand to him. I hope you come to feel that way about your ex as well. Also, wtf with the best friend telling you all this? Why does he feel spite for you?
Author starlite Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 Hey Sedgwick- His friend (ex friend) decided to tell me because we live in a small town and he didnt want me to see my ex and his ex out together and be nice and civil and basically look like an idiot since they are sleeping together. I think he told me about the cheating kind of to get back at my ex for sleeping with his ex. He was angry and sounded hesitant to tell me, but he ended up spilling to me.
EnigmaXOXO Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Then out of spite my ex's ex best friend added in that not only was he sleeping with her, but he had cheated on me with two different girls in the first year of us being together. One was a one time thing and the other happend repeatedly Just an observation ... but how ironic that your boyfriend’s buddy was so willing to aide in your deception by helping to keep this information from you. And now that the rattlesnake he was protecting has bit him as well ... NOW he can’t wait to let you know what a jerk you were dating. The enemy of my enemy is suddenly my new best friend. Starlite, I’m sure my response won’t go very far in making you feel better about things right at the moment. But believe me, you are SO MUCH better off without these kinds of people in your life. Time to clean house and pluck out the weeds from your social circle. You’ll be much happier for it in the long run.
Author starlite Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 Enigma, your response does help in making me feel better. Support is the main thing I need right now. As for his friend. I understand. I wouldnt tell on one of my friends if they cheated either, I would be a good friend ya know. But considering he has been burned... I just cant believe this. Well, I do, but you know what I mean. I never thought he would have been cheating on my all along. To think of all our intimate times, and professing how deeply in love we are etc and helping him in every way I could. BLAH!!!!! F him! He is disgusting!
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