kytle Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 It has been 5 years passed since I was cheated by my husband and sister but the pain they brought me still intensifies whenever i reminisce it.. The picture of them together in my head makes me feel terribly angry and gives me alot of ideas on how to get even and to cheat on my hubby as well. The whole cheating thing started when my husband texted my sister a month before our son's first birthday.(our son is now 6 years old) I was totally unaware of their communication, (although i was having a feeling that they do like each other) but i never thought that my husband would do such thing because first of all, we fought for our relationship and we started out so blissfully in love with each other, that's why i never really expected that to happen. But to my surprise, a concerned cousin of mine told me what my hubby and sister has been doing behind my back. I was so hurt when i heard about it to the extent that I almost committed suicide (i know it was dumb!) but at that time, i was not thinking straight. When I confronted my hubby he was acting like as if he doesn't know anything about what i was saying but in the end he admitted and asked for an apology, he said he would want to fix the mess he did.(i couldn't help myself but to forgive him because we already have a growing up child) but all the memories he has done still remains... Now, when I confronted my sister she was saying that she never liked my husband and said that it was my husband who was deeply in love to her making him want to leave us(me and my son) just to prove how much he loves her. She also told me that my husband exclaimed to her that if he only met my sister earlier before me he would have chosen her instead of me.. (that was really painful on my part!!!! so annoying!) i cannot afford to really burst out my anger to my sister because i didn't want to be the talk of the town in our family..so i just suppressed my emotions.. but recently we have been gathered together for a family reunion and my sister has her own family already but my fear of seeing them joined together would only intesify my suppressed emotions... But other than that my husband has fooled me alot of times already and ironically he likes those who are really close to me such as my bestfriend, friends, cousin etc, (i just hope he didn't have a blood rush towards my mom and grandma! eewwww!) but i guess he really invested an emotion towards my sister..if I were to describe his lifestyle i'd say he is living a sedentary one! Why?!! because he is an alcoholic and he tends to be absent to his work for he gets a hangover the day after his drinking spree... I cant barely even feel his love for me now(although he says he still loves me and he would want to spend the rest of his life with me)..and as for me i still love him but i guess we're just living together for the sake of the child....I cannot really say that he is a 101% forgiven because i only bring up a fight whenever i recall the things from the past. Please help me out on this.. What should I do?? I'm really confused and weary about everything...
blind_otter Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Have you two sought marriage counseling?
Author kytle Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 yes we did...and that makes it all so unbelievable.
blind_otter Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Maybe you should do some individual counseling to help you resolve some of this pent up anger.
Author kytle Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 we tried that already but it didn't work out the way we wanted it to be.. i have a feeling that he is not sincere enough to do what he promised not to do...
cj1988 Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 That has to be hard, I know.....long story short, I accused my H almost a year ago of having an affair with HIS 1/2 sister whom he just met 4 years ago. I know something happened, but he will not admitit, who could that is just GROSS. None the less, the betrayal I felt from both is enormus, especially considering she would not have met him if it were not for me, I found them.....so, I know the weird feeling I am going to have through the holidays. You have to try and put it away and if you cannot leave him, i am going to do the same. I love myself too much to feel the pain of his s--- and f---- up head !
bish Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 oh kytle....I don't know what to say. I know how bad infidelity scars...but with your own sister. I really don't know what to tell you except I hope you disowned that wh0re of a sister of yours and are making sure he and her aren't seeing each other. That means, unfortunately for you, no family functions that she is at.
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