How can I be that unbearable?!

[ShyguyRod]

Thats it! I've had it! People just don't like me!

 

out of 26 people I invited to my 18th birthday dinner, 10 came. As a result of alcohol intake, I do not remember much about that night aside from waking up as I was pulled from the tray of a ute and beaten.

I am finding that I have barely any guy friends let alone any luck with girls.

I just can't work out why a) I can't have a pack of guy mates and b) get any action with girls.

I do anything for my mates and they barely ever give me anything in return. I lend them money, drive them places and look after them when they are too drunk, but I still end up with no money and on my own every other weekend.

I have tried being an arrogant arsehole, and it doesn't work for me. I have tried being myself, what would commonly be referred to as the sensitive guy and that just leaves me with more hassles. I haven't past first base in my whole existence, 18 years!! What do I have to do?

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[Enema]

I don't know how to help you mate.

 

Nothing is more attractive to women than a passed out drunk bogan in the back of a ute.

[lino]

Hi there, sorry to hear about your 18th that should be a b day to remember for good times.

 

I have tried being an arrogant arsehole, and it doesn't work for me.

 

Being like that may get you girls but not mates.

If you feel like the mates you have aren't giving any appreciation back then you need to make new ones, sorry. girls come & go but mates should always be there for each other and yours don't sound like mates at all.

 

you need to find a group of guys that you click with that are into some of the same things you are.

 

at your age you're probably looking for roots & being an a*shole will help you there. forget the sensitive, nice guy approach it leads nowhere.

[bigheartkindsoul]

Thats it! I've had it! People just don't like me!

 

out of 26 people I invited to my 18th birthday dinner, 10 came. As a result of alcohol intake, I do not remember much about that night aside from waking up as I was pulled from the tray of a ute and beaten.

I am finding that I have barely any guy friends let alone any luck with girls.

I just can't work out why a) I can't have a pack of guy mates and b) get any action with girls.

I do anything for my mates and they barely ever give me anything in return. I lend them money, drive them places and look after them when they are too drunk, but I still end up with no money and on my own every other weekend.

I have tried being an arrogant arsehole, and it doesn't work for me. I have tried being myself, what would commonly be referred to as the sensitive guy and that just leaves me with more hassles. I haven't past first base in my whole existence, 18 years!! What do I have to do?

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How many agreed and accepted the invite and did not turn up? i say because I think this is totally uncalled for unless a life/death situation came up.

 

You should mention it too them, it was after all your 18th not just any average birthday.

[acrosstheroom]

Thats it! I've had it! People just don't like me!

 

out of 26 people I invited to my 18th birthday dinner, 10 came. As a result of alcohol intake, I do not remember much about that night aside from waking up as I was pulled from the tray of a ute and beaten.

I am finding that I have barely any guy friends let alone any luck with girls.

I just can't work out why a) I can't have a pack of guy mates and b) get any action with girls.

I do anything for my mates and they barely ever give me anything in return. I lend them money, drive them places and look after them when they are too drunk, but I still end up with no money and on my own every other weekend.

I have tried being an arrogant arsehole, and it doesn't work for me. I have tried being myself, what would commonly be referred to as the sensitive guy and that just leaves me with more hassles. I haven't past first base in my whole existence, 18 years!! What do I have to do?

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How far in advance did you invite these people? Out of the 26 people, how many do you see or talk to on a weekly basis?

 

If the 10 people that showed up are ones that you hang out on a regular basis then you should be happy. If a large number of the 26 people you invited you don't hang out with or talk with all that often, I wouldn't be too offended.

 

The situation with your friends and you lending them money and you taking care of them all the time and receiving nothing in return is a much bigger issue. Is it possible you don't ever really need help from them, you don't get drunk all the time and need help, you don't need money, etc.

 

Just some food for thought, as I don't know your group of friends at all.

[jcster]

out of 26 people I invited to my 18th birthday dinner, 10 came. As a result of alcohol intake, I do not remember much about that night aside from waking up as I was pulled from the tray of a ute and beaten.

 

That's not an unrealistic turnout for a party. You should always figure somewhere around 50% - especially if you are invited people outside your regular circle of friends. Then again..you blacked out! Are you sure that only 10 showed up?

 

I do anything for my mates and they barely ever give me anything in return. I lend them money, drive them places and look after them when they are too drunk, but I still end up with no money and on my own every other weekend.

 

If you give it away - people will take it. What are you getting in return for your generosity? Are you trying to buy friends?

 

I have tried being an arrogant arsehole, and it doesn't work for me. I have tried being myself, what would commonly be referred to as the sensitive guy and that just leaves me with more hassles. I haven't past first base in my whole existence, 18 years!! What do I have to do?

 

You need to stop worrying about what you don't have and start concentrating on what you do have. I have a feeling that when you do that, your outlook will improve, and you will attract better friends and more girls. If you spend all of your time feeling put upon, that's what you will get.

[ShyguyRod]

ah what a great load of replies, thanks guys.

invites were given out 2 and a half weeks prior to the date. It was only out for tea, not a big party or anything, who doesn't need to eat?

I would say 75% of them I talk to on a daily basis at school and the rest a weekly basis at school or work.

 

I don't simply give my money away, when my friends ask if they can 'borrow' some money I'm happy to help them out, but when they say 'borrow' I've always figured that meant they would pay you back.

 

I'm quite worried about finding new friends because school has just finished, and I am not going to University.

 

Nothing is more attractive to women than a passed out drunk bogan in the back of a ute.

Hot Damn! Finally someone who thinks like me! I am not a bogan, I drowned my sorrows in alcohol, and yes it was a bad idea, but I went that far as a result of weeks of stress from school, and then when I couldn't even get people to turn up to my birthday dinner after they claimed i was 'their hero' it just all went wrong. I don't remember climbing into the back of the ute, I don't remember much at all.

[lino]

and I am not going to University.

 

so what are your plans after school? Are you gonna do an apprenticeship? I made a heap of mates doing mine.

[ShyguyRod]

so what are your plans after school? Are you gonna do an apprenticeship? I made a heap of mates doing mine.

Yep I'm trying to get an apprenticeship, I didn't think I would have much chance of making 'good' friends through that path. Sounds like I've got a chance then right? Thanks!

[lino]

Sounds like I've got a chance then right? Thanks!

 

of course, most guys who become tradies are real easy going. good luck mate