I really don't know what to say, but I love you so it's okay.

[ButterflyxBroken]

[sIZE=2] Hello, there.

 

My question, it's a bit odd, a bit emo, and more than a bit pathetic, but I'd really like some help.

And the fated beginning: So, there's this guy...

 

and I love him. I really love him, and he loves me. We are great together, I've never been with anyone so absolutely amazing. He's a dream come true. He saved me. Here's the kicker, dear. We can't date. He cannot be mine, I cannot be his. He's really scared to get into another relationship. His ex, was a horrid man, and hurt him. He claims it was his fault, he wasn't good enough at showing his emotions so the guy left him. I think that's horrible. I mean, this guy has a heart of gold. And he's great! He's perfect, but he just can't see it. I'm fine with just being his friend, sure I want more, but I'll manage. What I'd really like to know, is how should I handle this? He claims he's bad at showing his emotions, but I think he's great! How do I let him know, that I love him, just as he is, broken brain and everything, and wouldn't have him any other way? How do I ask him if I'm good enough for him?

 

[/sIZE][sIZE=2] He's in therapy, but see, it's weird. He cracked his skull when he was about 12 and he thinks that's the reason. I don't, I just think he's scared. I'd love to be his, but I'm willing to just be the 'it' girl friend. I love him enough to do that. I love him enough to wait for him to open up. What my question is, is how do I let him know that, even with his 'broken brain', his weird habits, his all-in-all wackoness, I think he's absolutely perfect? I'm patient, I'm not pushy, but when I initially asked him out, he's like "I dunno! I cant right now!" And then he starts apologizing profusely, and crying <We'd both said our ThreeLittleWords before then.> I was fine with it. I said. "It's ok, it's fine. No is fine." He got mad and was like "I'm not saying no!" Neither of us will even look at another man or woman. We both claim we're spoken for. I can wait forever, but it's starting to wear on me greatly. I don't eat or sleep right, I'm always worried about the guy.

 

I liken him to an antique doll. Cracked, scratched, dusty, with missing pieces, but holding so much more value than a brand new vinyl doll. This little girl loves the broken china doll more than any other doll in the world.

 

They say, "god broke the mold after you."

 

I tell him. "The gods of creation, never thought to use a mold. You are hewn from the living rock itsself, and perfect in your every imperfection."

 

He says, he can't see himself like that, I say, "It's ok, cause I do." I've got his back completely, I'm all about him. But, where patience, love, faith, and hope, run in abundance, my physical being wears thin. I worry myself ill.

 

I would love to know, just how to tell him, not what I feel because he already knows, but how I see him. Tells me he doesn't believe me.

 

I just want to quieten his pain, really, it's sad to see him so broken, but he won't talk. He refuses to.

 

I'm scared for him.[/sIZE]

[ButterflyxBroken]

A reply would be good, you know, since I did ask for one.

[ButterflyxBroken]

Okay....so....??? Is this not being read?

[Lovegod]

No offense, but homosexual relationships aren't most people's specialty here.

[ButterflyxBroken]

No offense, but homosexual relationships aren't most people's specialty here.

Ok. So.... there's something that makes them less valid and different to comment on than a heterosexual relationship?

 

Oh, and if you're sorry arses bothered to READ the post. I refer to myself as a woman. Because I am.

 

Idiots.

[Lovegod]

Oh, and if you're sorry arses bothered to READ the post. I refer to myself as a woman.

 

My sorry arse DID read the post. Here's why I thought you were a man:

 

His ex, was a horrid man, and hurt him.

 

Either you were a guy, or you're interested in a homosexual/bisexual man.

 

Anyway onto the red flags:

 

#1: He's really scared to get into another relationship.

 

He's got baggage. He's insecure and he'll be scared to commit.

 

#2: His ex, was a horrid man

 

I would seriously re-consider dating a man who's interested in other men. He may never be 100% interested in you.

 

#3: He's in therapy

 

In other words, there's still other underlying baggage that he hasn't dealt with yet.

 

#4: He cracked his skull when he was about 12 and he thinks that's the reason.

 

He likes to throw pity parties.

 

#5: And then he starts apologizing profusely

 

Another sign that he's insecure and likely has low self-esteem

 

#6: and crying

 

He's a *bit* on the feminine side

 

I liken him to an antique doll. Cracked, scratched, dusty, with missing pieces,

 

You forgot BROKEN. That's a good enough reason to throw him in the trash. You will be much better off finding someone who has their 5hit together rather than trying to fix someone who is WAY beyond repair.