bethyy Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 okay so i just made an account for the express purpose of getting help about this because i am so upset right now. i am a 17 year old girl, senior in high school. i have always done well in school, sports, work, etc. from 6th-8th grade i had a HUGE crush on this kid named bryce who played on the same tennis team as me that my mom coached. fastforward 5 years and my mom is best friends with bryce's mom and bryce has gotten himself in some serious trouble. he had a drug problem and was selling marijuana. his parents send him off to boarding school, we lose touch. he comes back after graduating a couple weeks ago, suddenly i find him on facebook, we start talking on aim and decide to go to the movies. mom's out of town, dad says its fine. we go to the movies, all my old feelings come back, he tells me that he used to like me too, it seems the feelings are coming back from him as well. THEN mom calls and i mention i went to movies with bryce. she FLIPS OUT. she explains to me that she knows all about his being a "terrible drug addict and dealer" and that it was "irresponsible" for me to be "alone" with him. we weren't alone (movie theater) and i have reason to believe that he really has changed. when we were talking he wouldnt tell me exactly what he did wrong (he didn't know i already knew through mom) because he said it was a part of his past and it is something he is incredibly embarassed and ashamed of that hurt his family and he is not proud of it. he also asked me if i smoke and when i said no he was glad because he doesn't want to be around that. so basically my mom's coming home tomororw and i need a good argument explaining my rationale in hanging out with him. if that goes well, then maybe potential arguments on why it wouldnt be terrible to hang out with him again. i think a key factor in this is that some of the other guys i have dated have also had drug problems and this has not pressured me into trying ANY of that stuff in the past so i really don't think this guy, who is trying to avoid drugs, will make any difference. my mom is fairly unreasonable and a very good arguer so i really just need some clearheaded arguments here because right now i am so upset i can hardly think. oh and let me know if you think my mom is completely right in her path of thinking. obviously i see where she's coming from and i understand her being overprotective but i mean i'm going to college next year so she really needs to start trusting my judgment...
woodsfield Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 i'm a horrible arguer, but i think she is merely trying to protect you from the "old" bryce...i don't think she is wrong but she damn sure ain't right. tell her that boarding school has changed him; he is clean as a whitsle and see if you can convince he and her to get together....but be careful; that may blow up in your face. you are soon to be 18, so you could always take it easy with the guy for now...stay in touch and then get serious when you are out from under the wrath of mother. good luck.
Author bethyy Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 see the thing is she has gotten together with him due to her being bffs with his mom. so she's been seeing him frequently when he's been home visiting from boarding school just from being over at their house. he is very charming and usually she love the guys i date who actually talk to her and basically just win her over. i will not be 18 for 11.5 months but i will be going to college next year. however, bryce seems too right already to let him get out of my life again. already he treats me so much better than any of the other guys ive dated. also i just don't need advice for what to do in the future with hanging out with him but also for explaining myself when my mom comes home and tries to murder my dad and i for our irresponsibleness.
Author bethyy Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 bumpp please help bryce wants to hang out tomorrow but i need to talk to my mom first...
zsunnydayz Posted November 15, 2007 Posted November 15, 2007 You should tell her how you feel. You obviously have old feelings that are starting to surface for this guy. Have her go on a "girls day out" with Bryce's mom so that she can get the scoop for herself on how much he has changed. You could possibly bring him around more often. If your mom and his mom are bf's then I don't see the problem?? GOOD LUCK!! Remember.. Don't shoot your mothers opinions down, that will only upset her even more. Try to understand where she is coming from. If she just doesn't consider that he has changed, than you can always sneakingly see him. "BUT NO FUNNY BUSINESS, YOUNG LADY"...And then, when you are 18 and off to college, she will never have to know...haha..that always works!!!
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