meteku07 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I want to hear what people's opinions are on my situation.. Recap: Huge argument 6 days ago that resulted in H getting loud being in my face and me pushing his face away twice. IOW..provoked me by getting loud and in my face and me putting my hands on him...that's his bottom line. To me it's a mixture of anxiety from having 2 kids soon and his lack of flexibility in his schedule to help me out. If anything interrupts his normal "schedule" he gets pretty upset, irritated, and frustrated. We both have tempers I admit. But this "fight" is getting out of hand and I want to separate. I wrote him an extensive email about how I feel and insist that if we separate that we not be in the same roof. He's ignored the email and has not responded. We had a birthday party with family yesterday for our toddler and we were very cordial. We both love our baby a lot but I really don't want her to grow up in a crazy environment. No one knows what's going on and I'd rather keept it that way. Anyway, we've been sleeping in separate rooms and have not had a word said to one another for 1 week. My hormones from my pregnancy is magnifying the situation and my emotions are pretty intense. I feel alone, annoyed, and just want an answer or any response from the email that I wrote. He seems fine or just keeps going about his business as if he's not affected. I don't really know what to think or do..we both have too much pride and he knows what buttons to push with me. I'm just tired, fed up, and of course...pregnant. I would rather have the finality of knowing this is the end rather than continue like this... separate... There's more to it but I just am too tired to type it all up... What do you think?
michael d Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 ALOHA. all i can say is- getting an email from someone under the same roof? forget it. you guys need to communicate. i'm about to lose the love of my life from not communicating. it all seems surreal. just talk to him. tell him" i feel this way" and work it out in the open. no more emails. go to counseling now and don't wait. i wish to god i had not waited. if you love each other, it will work. if not, well, you both will have to move on. nothing worse than looking back at what you should have done..... trust me, talk talk talk. calmly. no yelling. no blaming. go for it and good luck. mike d
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