Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 Yeah above are classics men come out with more than ladies me thinks Actually women initiate at least 75% of divorces.
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Actually women initiate at least 75% of divorces. Wonder if that is cause it is mostly men who go off and cheat or have affairs, or the women who are being abused somehow by the man.
Saxis Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 If she just up and left a man that treated her well especially if there were kids involved it shows that she is ready to bail when a marriage doesn't fit the impossible fantasy she has in her head. If you describe my X in any more detail than you have, I'll begin to think you were stalking her...
Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 If you describe my X in any more detail than you have, I'll begin to think you were stalking her... Your x is not unique and there are plenty of women just like her. Talk to divorced men and the story is the same over and over again.
jcster Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Actually women initiate at least 75% of divorces. The statistics that I've seen place it more at 61%, with 2/3 of the divorces over age 40 being initiated by women. Of those divorces (in the over 40 category) : The increase in women initiating a divorce reflects the empowerment of women to leave bad marriages, said Linda Fisher, AARP's director of national member research. "Thirty years ago, many of these women might not have been able to (divorce) because of lack of self-confidence and financial means," she said. "Women are more likely to have more self-confidence and the means to leave a marriage when the circumstances are untenable." The AARP study found that most women said they filed for divorces because of physical or emotional abuse, infidelity or drug and alcohol abuse. Men said they sought divorces because they fell out love, they had different values or lifestyles or infidelity.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 So, in other words... you're saying.. once a cheater always a cheater... Not always the case. You should give people the benefit of the doubt. People can change.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Wonder if that is cause it is mostly men who go off and cheat or have affairs, or the women who are being abused somehow by the man. I'm not sure if its the man or the woman who does more of the cheating, but that 75% means nothing. It could be because of emotional or physical abuse.
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 I'm not sure if its the man or the woman who does more of the cheating, but that 75% means nothing. It could be because of emotional or physical abuse. I thought you were taking time off from here Ridds baby
Pyro Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 I thought you were taking time off from here Ridds baby Addiction. I have to feed the addiction.
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Addiction. I have to feed the addiction. I think being addicted to LS should be counted as a red flag. Because we all know it comes first
Author Woggle Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 Once a cheater always a cheater is true but once a walkaway wife always a walkaway wife is true as well. People tend to repeat patterns and she will eventually end up treating you the same way she treated her ex.
jcster Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Once a cheater always a cheater is true but once a walkaway wife always a walkaway wife is true as well. People tend to repeat patterns and she will eventually end up treating you the same way she treated her ex. Let me introduce you to a new word - Hyperbole: Hyperbole \Hy*per"bo*le\, n. (Rhet.) A figure of speech in which the expression is an evident exaggeration of the meaning intended to be conveyed, or by which things are represented as much greater or less, better or worse, than they really are; a statement exaggerated fancifully, through excitement, or for effect. Our common forms of compliment are almost all of them extravagant hyperboles. --Blair. Somebody has said of the boldest figure in rhetoric, the hyperbole, that it lies without deceiving. --Macaulay It's a lazy way to think. I know you're smarter than that.
Pyro Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Once a cheater always a cheater is true but once a walkaway wife always a walkaway wife is true as well. People tend to repeat patterns and she will eventually end up treating you the same way she treated her ex. So by this post of yours, you are saying that no one is capable of changing?
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Actually women initiate at least 75% of divorces. Woggle, in no way are the LS forums a clear cut look at all relationships-but have you checked out the jealousy forum or the marriage problems forum? How many women start the sentence with "my husband's new friend-shoul;d I be worried?" or "lied about going to strip clubs and getting lap dance" or all the hundreds of other petty things men do to satisfy their desires.....I strongly disagree that these are some mean unhappy women who were being treated too nicely and left....sorry! Most women I know are struggling with or have had experiences like that with the SO! No wonder intimacy dies off and the man goes and complains about no more sex!
Cobra_X30 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Woggle, in no way are the LS forums a clear cut look at all relationships-but have you checked out the jealousy forum or the marriage problems forum? How many women start the sentence with "my husband's new friend-shoul;d I be worried?" or "lied about going to strip clubs and getting lap dance" or all the hundreds of other petty things men do to satisfy their desires.....I strongly disagree that these are some mean unhappy women who were being treated too nicely and left....sorry! Most women I know are struggling with or have had experiences like that with the SO! No wonder intimacy dies off and the man goes and complains about no more sex! Its a very fluid and dynamic situation. It is a true fact that the majority of divorces are initiated by women. However, this has been linked more to custody laws, more than anything else. Also, since we are on the subject. Poeple who divorce and remarry typically fail at thier second marriage too! Plus thier children are less likely to have a succesful marriage. Since my mom is on her... 20th husband... I'm pretty much toast!
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Its a very fluid and dynamic situation. It is a true fact that the majority of divorces are initiated by women. However, this has been linked more to custody laws, more than anything else. Also, since we are on the subject. Poeple who divorce and remarry typically fail at thier second marriage too! Plus thier children are less likely to have a succesful marriage. Since my mom is on her... 20th husband... I'm pretty much toast! From my own experience I'm not sure I believe that married parents/divorced parents/cheating parents are any indicator of the offsprings relationships......I haven't seen a pattern yet and I have always observed people and kept track of stuff like that, for my own general knowledge, i suppose. So don't worry- I don't think you have to worry about being toast yet or anytime soon!
Cobra_X30 Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 From my own experience I'm not sure I believe that married parents/divorced parents/cheating parents are any indicator of the offsprings relationships......I haven't seen a pattern yet and I have always observed people and kept track of stuff like that, for my own general knowledge, i suppose. So don't worry- I don't think you have to worry about being toast yet or anytime soon! I'm not asking you to just believe! Google it! It is a very true fact. Think about it. We learn not only our parenting, but also our relationship skills from our fathers and mothers. When the parents fail to teach committment, you have to learn this on your own. Most never do!
squeak Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Well-okay I recall a study that we take on the role of one of our parents in anyrelationship we are in-unless we consciously de-program ourselves. So in light of that-you are worried you may be in the role of your mother or your father? Okay, I see. That is a lot of de-programming, I forgot about that finding...
Author Woggle Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 So by this post of yours, you are saying that no one is capable of changing? People are and if a woman genuinely has changed maybe we can talk but if the mentality that led them to cheat or be a walkaway wife is still there she will do it again.
Author Woggle Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Woggle, in no way are the LS forums a clear cut look at all relationships-but have you checked out the jealousy forum or the marriage problems forum? How many women start the sentence with "my husband's new friend-shoul;d I be worried?" or "lied about going to strip clubs and getting lap dance" or all the hundreds of other petty things men do to satisfy their desires.....I strongly disagree that these are some mean unhappy women who were being treated too nicely and left....sorry! Most women I know are struggling with or have had experiences like that with the SO! No wonder intimacy dies off and the man goes and complains about no more sex! If you look at the threads from men in the divorce forum you will see plenty who did everything right and still had their wives cheat and or walk out on them.
lino Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 I dunno about the U.S but in my country I'd say both genders cheat on each other 50-50. Really I think pointing the finger at the other gender doesn't serve much purpose.
Author Woggle Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 I dunno about the U.S but in my country I'd say both genders cheat on each other 50-50. Really I think pointing the finger at the other gender doesn't serve much purpose. I agree but this board and most others are heavily balanced in the woman's favor so I provide balance. Woggle is the great balance man of Loveshack.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 If you look at the threads from men in the divorce forum you will see plenty who did everything right and still had their wives cheat and or walk out on them. And, who is here posting about it?? They are. Of course they are not going to paint themselves as having done anything bad. The bottom line is that no one really knows what goes on in a marriage except the two involved and their higher power if they have one. We can only go by what people post- and there are three versions of the truth. His side, her side and the truth which is somewhere in the middle.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Once a cheater always a cheater is true but once a walkaway wife always a walkaway wife is true as well. People tend to repeat patterns and she will eventually end up treating you the same way she treated her ex. This is simply just not true, and I'm living proof of it. There is also proof of it not being true on this board. Ladyjanes H cheated on her and he hasn't repeated the process. His was an emotional affair but still cheating. You guys tell each other this kind of crap to justify being bitter and I for one am sick of it.
Mz. Pixie Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Assume much? I divorced my exhusband because he was sent to federal prison. Those of us here that know Bot know her story. To make assumptions about someone when you don't know anything about their history is just unfair.
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