Darkstar1 Posted November 16, 2007 Posted November 16, 2007 Have you ever considered firearms. Not to kill the b@stard, but to scare them? He found someone else, and didn't have the guts to tell you face to face. He is piece of crap breaking up via email. Forget this dude. He isn't worth your time. If you care to give me his email addy, I will be more than happy to splain it to him. Anonymously of course.....
your star Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 hi tinke, I read through your threads. I'm sorry for everything you are going through. My ex of 6 years up broke up with me and disappeared for 2 months. No word from him in that time..he ignored my emails, calls, text etc..and I of course gave up for my own sanity. I really thought I'd never hear from him ever again, then I did last month on my birthday. He got in contact with me and when he did I told him I just wanted to know one thing, "why did you feel the need to just disappear". His response was, "he couldnt handle breaking my heart everyday and seeing me hurt". He also said that he disconnected himself from everything because it was just too much for him. Sometimes when we think they run because they dont care it's actually not true. They just can't face up to the sadness they have brought upon us. I believe if my ex would of tried to talk to me and tell me his reasons, I would of dealt with it better. Rather than being left behind feeling like I never existed, especially after sharing so many years together.. I just thought i'd share my story because my I know how you feel. Hang in there..
jerbear Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 What I've done in the past for closure was to just disappear... one of my closure talks, well I told her why I dumped her. I told her if I stuck around she wouldn't respect me, if I left I would be abandoning her; either way I'm out of luck more fubar and SOL. Not easy at times to just walk away especially after 10 years. I have had problems with friendships let alone, 2 years and 5 years relationships
Author tinke Posted November 17, 2007 Author Posted November 17, 2007 i guess the good that has come of this, now that i have accepted the relationship is over....is that it has forced me to re-evaluate my life, my new priorities, etc. i am now beginning to visualize myself moving forward toward my dreams/goals WITHOUT HIM. it's a bittersweet awakening! there is also a flair of excitement..this i haven't felt in a very long time! not to say i believe i am totally over it, but, i believe going through the process and feeling, grieving, etc. has helped. thank you all for your replies! this site has been a true comfort!
sderenzi Posted November 17, 2007 Posted November 17, 2007 i guess, this is where i have problems moving on...absolutely no closure, no words, but a VERY brief phone call. how does one move on from that? how can someone just simply leave..without an explanation, words of some sort..something! how can someone leave without guilt, remorse, of at least feeling they owe some type of closure. this was not a short-term fling! i need your thoughts on this, replies, some sense of things to move past this. help!!! My thoughts are this, find someone better next time and learn how they broke-up with their ex's, this will help you determine if they are nice or not / will explain it.
LakesideDream Posted November 18, 2007 Posted November 18, 2007 Tinke and others.... could it be that he just decided to go "NC" and move on? No Contact is the first and most obvious advice to most here on LS, maybe it's the same where he is/goes.
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