Ocean-Blue Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Fair enough. But you still haven't responded to the most important point I made. WHAT ABOUT THE GUY'S FEELINGS? It seems to be your opinion that he should just suck it up... Of course his feelings are relevant and should be factored in! The OP has mentioned that since they've been together, he has ALWAYS called each and every single day. He has clearly set up an expectation by simply performing a specific act consistently. He created reliance on her part through his past actions. I don't see where the OP mentioned that her bf's feelings. I may have missed it. The mature thing to do would be to mention her concern the next time she talks to him and listen to his reason for doing something so uncharacteristic.
Phateless Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Of course his feelings are relevant and should be factored in! The OP has mentioned that since they've been together, he has ALWAYS called each and every single day. He has clearly set up an expectation by simply performing a specific act consistently. He created reliance on her part through his past actions. I don't see where the OP mentioned that her bf's feelings. I may have missed it. The mature thing to do would be to mention her concern the next time she talks to him and listen to his reason for doing something so uncharacteristic. I agree. All I'm saying is that she shouldn't be alarmed yet, and just because he missed a call doesn't necessarily mean anything.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 I agree. All I'm saying is that she shouldn't be alarmed yet, and just because he missed a call doesn't necessarily mean anything. Yes, I agree.
2sunny Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 don't be so needy as to expect him to call every day... have you ever been to the carribean? there is not that much to do there except enjoy the beatiful scenery and surroundings...
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 The only time I ever get annoyed with someone for not calling is if they say they are going to and don't. But even then you have to accept that things happen. Especially when they are on a holiday, or away for work. People get busy and aren't able to call. If it was constantly happening then I find it selfish and rude, but I would have to say in this case give him a break
Curmudgeon Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 After a while you run out of stuff to talk about and too much contact when away can take some of the excitement out of reuniting. My wife and I have been married for 11 years. I'm still working. She's retired. We speak with one another twice a day while I'm at work and spend almost all our time together when I'm not. We have yet to run out of things to talk about even if it's only "I love you." I have't found that it takes any of the excitement out of the relationship, including when one of us is travelling and we'e apart.
squeak Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Once a patern of consistency is established-it sends an alarming message to not call or email once away on a vacation without your SO-and the partner who is away has to realize that. Unless it was specifically stated that the roaming charges were too high to talk every day, I'd still expect at least an email! And the argument of obligation and pressure and the guy's feelings-why the hell does he stop a consistent pattern as soon as he sets foot away from his SO? What is that? Out of sight out of mind? Or the unspoken- we're together and I'm consistent until I'm a few thousand miles away-then don't count on me to evne log on to my email for a minute? Puh-lease!
Krytie TV Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 What is that? Out of sight out of mind? Or the unspoken- we're together and I'm consistent until I'm a few thousand miles away-then don't count on me to evne log on to my email for a minute? Puh-lease! It's more like out of sight, take a breath. Haven't you ever just needed a break from someone? Geez, there have been times where I've been tempted to push a live-in girlfriend out the door just so I could have some time alone. I think anyone who can't handle just one day of no communication can be very smothering. It would be different if he was on a trip with women or somethig.
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