snap226 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I'm having a really difficult time with this breakup that happend on Tuesday. I'm nervous, can't sleep, and not eating much (trying to force some food down). I don't know what to do with my time, since most of it was spent with my ex. This is my first weekend in 1.5 years without him. I posted my innital thread yesturday entitled Hi, new here,and havn't received any replys yet. I'm really in a bad spott here. Does anybody have any advice?
carissalime Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 My husband moved out yesterday. We have been together since 1998. I don't know what to do with myself either. I feel like i am going nutso. Yesterday all i did was cry my eyes out. I couldnt sleep. I miss him. Cried this morning too, but i am trying to be strong. It is SO hard..... We have not been apart since we were married. I don't know how i am going to do it. I am taking it 5 min. at a time. I know that sounds crazy, but i don't know what to do. so depressed........................
cant let go Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Drink plenty of water. Keep tissues at arms length. Write in a journal. Talk to friends, family, and not only post on here but read others struggles. Sometimes the answers you are seeking are already here. Read - I highly recommend - "In the Meantime" by Iyanla Vanzant If you believe in God, Pray. Listen to music that makes you feel good or sad whichever is more therapeutic (this varies by individual.) It sounds like your situation isn't completely hopeless. Just give him the space that he needs and be prepared to listen with loving ears when he does contact you. But do not seek contact with him because that will likely only push him away since he has asked you for space. If he loved you, he will contact you again. When he does, you must be strong and you must be honest with him and with yourself.
Author snap226 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Oh Carrissa I can feel your pain in your thread. Listen to cantletgo, the advice sounds good. I know this is a difficult time, but maybe there is a chance. It just sucks in the mean time. My heart goes out to you. Keep posted what happens.
sedgwick Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 If it helps any at all, you're right where you should be in the first few days. You can't expect yourself to think clearly about anything right now, so to the best of your ability, just give the whole subject a rest and give yourself some time away from the person. In the meantime, you can't eat, can't sleep...unfortunately, that's how it is. I lost 14 lbs in the two weeks after my bf left. If you can, drink some Ensure shakes, or some kind of protein drink to give yourself some calories. I drank chocolate milkshakes for a week after a breakup once -- and I'm talking nothing but chocolate milkshakes. It's almost four months down the road for me, and it still sucks, but it IS better. I'm eating and functioning and working again. I'm not at 100%, but I do have some stuff in my life I'm genuinely happy about. Find those things. I don't know how long it will be before I can consider loving someone else, I can't even think about that right now, but the fact is that this guy has proven he's not the one. I thought he was, he's not, now all I can do is get over it. Curl up in your pajamas, the first month sucks.
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