boop-oop-a-doop Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 He's had lots of success with lots of women, but it comes to me he becomes, well, a romantic klutz (tries too hard to flirt, etc.) He's liked me for a really long time (like around 5 years) I've turned him down several times, but he hasn't given up hope If he gets any attention from me it seems to brighten his day He apparently let his last serious girlfriend walk all over him (this was like 10 years ago) The last girl he dated he didn't have strong feelings for, and he told her off when she got clingy. Yes, I like him too, but I just want to know if there's a term that describes his behavior. Also, would you automatically not date someone who acted like this (male or female)?
brothermartin Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 The term you looking for is THOWED, I believe. It sounds like the guy is totaly infatuated with you. Maybe even struck by Cupid's arrow a little. To answer your question, not right now. Im still not completely over my last break-up. But if I were, still no.
compassion42 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 This guy sounds a little insecure and infatuated. I wonder if the stories he has told you of past relationships are accurate-or maybe he is trying to present himself in a way that he really isn't? It's nice to be liked I'm sure, but please just take things slow and see what happens and how you are feeling as you get to know more. Brother Martin-I have never heard of the term "thowed" before...guess ya learn something new every day.
Author boop-oop-a-doop Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Hmm . . . thowed. Never heard that before, but thanks! I only have his word to go on for most of his past relationships, but the serious one I have a third party too. The third party says that the girl really took advantage of him (financially and emotionally). He usually says that she was a not so nice person, or that things just didn't work out, or that they both had issues depending on what mood he's in. The third party says that they broke up right after he'd bought an engagement ring and was about to propose. What worries me is that he comes from an alcoholic family, and I've heard that people who do tend to be very needy and will often put up with way to much from people. Really, he's put up with a lot of crap from me already, and we're not even going out. I've never had to deal with a person like him before and was just wondering what that would be like. At the same time, he doesn't take anything from most people. I don't think that he's put up with anything from his last however many girlfriends/fwbs/flings. In fact he has the reputation of being pretty cold blooded when it comes to relationships. Why take a bunch of crap from me is what I don't get. It's all very confusing.
Author boop-oop-a-doop Posted November 12, 2007 Author Posted November 12, 2007 Also, he's done some pretty weird things over time: trying to sneak into my room (we worked at a ski resort and we were the MODs for a busy weekend), poking around my room on a different weekend (I know he did because he called me on something that was in there), etc. but he hasn't done anything like that in years. I've never heard anyone say he'd ever done anything like that before or since.
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