divine04 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 1/2 months. (Im 21 he's 24) He goes to school a few hours away from me and will be graduating in may. To complete his degree he has to intern for 3 months. And he told me last night the he will probably be interning in ENGLAND with his uncle. We live in the south. I am so upset, not mad, but upset. I dont believe that there is anyway I would be able to trust him in another country for 3months during the Summer. Not being able to see each other or anything at all. I know by the time he goes we will have been together a year. Im not worried about time away from him, I believe we'd be fine. But its about trusting him. I trust him now. But its a fact that guys .... well, will be guys. And basically you just never know. Doesnt matter how long you've been together. (my friends been with her husband for 8 years and he still cheated). I am planning on telling him that I would never stop him from going ( cuz I know he really wants too.) or be angry at him for going. But if everything works out and he goes to england next summer, I will have to break up with him.... now. not next year. I have been through so much crap with guys (what woman hasnt) so many heartbreaks, dissappointments etc... and i just feel like rather than wait a year for our relationship to eventually fall apart Id rather just deal with that now and get it over with. I dont want to continue investing my time, heart, and my feelings for no reason. I guess basically I feel that if he goes he will, inevitably, cheat. He never has before, and he's never given me a reason not to trust him. But he is a guy. And I dont want to go through the whole "I cheated, sorry" thing again. Im just trying to ward it off, and protect my heart. But I dont want to make the wrong decision by breaking up with him. He said that 3months isnt long, and our first 6 months went by quick and so will this. and then he'll be back, done with school and everything, and I can see him whenever I want. but that doesnt make me feel any better. maybe its ummm... paranoia? or I dont know. but any advice please. I just dont want to be making a mistake either way, whether I choose to stay with him or leave him. thanks everyone....
sumdude Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Hmmm. might be best to let it go for now. Set each other free and maybe when the internship is done you can see what happens then. Stay in contact but let it go for now. Long distance relationships are hard to keep going and you are both still young. Take the pressure off and you'll be amazed how things get better. Strange thing about life... if you fear something enough it will often come true. Maybe something to do with the subconscious somehow making it happen.
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