This is what I dont get

[Steffie575]

How can someone talk about a future with you (babies, marriage, etc) all the time and then just break up with you and have someone else right away?

 

Also, how do I stop thinking about all that? I feel like it would be so much easier to move on if he had never talked to me about those things. Because it hurts to picture him marrying someone else and it hurts to picture me marrying someone else.

 

Ugh. Short and to the point I guess.

[kypepeo]

The hardest part is letting go especially when you were so emotionally invested in the relationship

[Amy22]

Steffie, I wish I had those answers to your questions. Only the person who did that can really know why. I know that makes it hard for closure.

 

I think the only way to stop thinking about it all the time is time. Slowly over time you will think about it less and less. I know how hard that is because we are hurting and want it to go away but I don't think there is any fast way to get over it. After reading some threads on this site it seems people deal with it differently. Some go out with friends and family and some write. It helps me to post on this site. It gets my mind off things for a few minutes while I read a post and reply, I think about the other person. It also lets me know I am not alone. But nothing will totally take it all way. I know how you feel. I put my condo on the market and gave my job notice I was leaving to be with my man. And now I am left here to try and pick up the pieces. It also hurts me to think of him marrying someone else but right now I don't think about that. I hope that by the time that happens I will have moved on and be happy and not care. I do understand about how hard it is to think of yourself marrying someone else. I can't imagine going on a date, kiss or being intimate with another man. But I do know as time goes on and I get over him that will change. I hope things get better for you. Keep us up to date on how you are doing.