sw Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- been dating a woman for 3 months, the first 2 months were great and very intamate. the last month she has been very distant. We never had any commitment talk, so we were just dating. So for the last month she stop asking me over and I had to ask her to kiss me. last week I asked whats up, told me she didnt want a commitment and time to hang out woth her friends. So today I find out one of her friends is her abusive ex boyfriend thats he is hanging out with. She stayed at his place last night. shes been seeing him for dinner too. She has never lied to me about him but has been evasive, always saying she is going to a friends house for dinner after hanging out with me in the afternoon, She said she doesnt want a realationship untill she decides who she wants to be with.She just told me she was sorry for being evasive, she just didnt want things to get complicated She say she loves hanging out with me and that I am so much better than her ex. So, I dony really understand this. So how do I appraoch this now. NC? She just told me she was sorry for being evasive, she just didnt want things to get complicated
Ima littleconfused Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 In my opinion, perhaps NC is the best solution, give her time and space to decide what she wants to do. Just be prepared that she may choose to be with her ex over you. that doesnt mean that you did anything wrong, just that they have history.
kypepeo Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 If you have real feelings for this woman then NC would be the best thing to do until she decides who she wants to be with. Hanging out with her like that will just complicate things and hurt that much more if she picks him
Author sw Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Last week she told me was "poison" and thats why she had not introduced me to him, said I was so much better than him and ddnt want his "poison" on me.She was telling me all the bad things he had done to her. She was also mad at her firend for being friendly with him after telling him about all the bad stuff he did to her. Today when I saw her hanging out with him she even introduced me to him. I just looked at the both of them with disgust and walked away. This is just so confusing, I have never been more hurt in my life.
sumdude Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Last week she told me was "poison" and thats why she had not introduced me to him, said I was so much better than him and ddnt want his "poison" on me.She was telling me all the bad things he had done to her. She was also mad at her firend for being friendly with him after telling him about all the bad stuff he did to her. Today when I saw her hanging out with him she even introduced me to him. I just looked at the both of them with disgust and walked away. This is just so confusing, I have never been more hurt in my life. Well, sorry it worked out that way but just move along to the next one. If this guy is 'poison' and she's choosing to hang out with him do you really want to stay involved with someone so fickle? You deserve better.. Sounds like she's just going for that bad boy attraction thing, her loss.
Poboy Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- told me she didnt want a commitment and time to hang out woth her She said she doesnt want a realationship untill she decides who she wants to be with.She just told me she was sorry for being evasive, she just didnt want things to get complicated so make it easier for her.... break off and stay away from her and find someone better for you. she is still involved with am abusive ex while in a relationship with you which speaks a lot about her... do you really want to be with someone like her ?
Trialbyfire Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Last week she told me was "poison" and thats why she had not introduced me to him, said I was so much better than him and ddnt want his "poison" on me.She was telling me all the bad things he had done to her. She was also mad at her firend for being friendly with him after telling him about all the bad stuff he did to her. Today when I saw her hanging out with him she even introduced me to him. I just looked at the both of them with disgust and walked away. This is just so confusing, I have never been more hurt in my life. Speaking of poison, she's not nice people... Stay away from someone who needs to be abused and is a user. I can almost see this unfolding where when you distance yourself, she'll pursue you but if you take her back, she'll bounce back to the Ex.
WaterTiger Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I agree with Poboy. She broke up with him because he was mean, horrible and abusive...and she can't decide between the two of you? She's an idiot! She doesn't want you to meet him, not because he's "poison", but because she's probably sleeping with him too. You don't think they sat down and played checkers the night she was there, do you? And she's been going out to dinner with him???? SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU! DUMP HER AND DO IT NOW!
Trialbyfire Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Watertiger, they've never had the exclusivity discussion so she's not cheating on him. It sounds like she was juggling though.
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