Will I ever wise up

[spiggetywicks]

Ok. This is getting repetitive and quite frankly old.

I met my ex about 5 years ago. Through a mutual friend who had an interest in me but never acted on it. So I eventually started talking to my now ex and we hit it off from the first night we spent together. We were serious for about 2-3 years its all a blur right now as we've broken up and got back together on numerous occasions. About a year ago, she moved to Florida while I still lived in Minnesota. She said it would never work with us. So I did not contact her, moved on with my life. Around Christmas time this past year she came back to visit family and we hooked up. Felt like our chemistry was coming back, then she decided that she didn't want to continue because of the distance.

 

In April of this year I moved to Seattle. I found a great job and had a fresh start. I was miserable back in Minnesota. I found peace and contentment here. She eventually called me up and wanted to come visit. She came and visited we clicked like normal and she wanted to move here. I sent her an email on facebook about being her friend. She claims she never got the email (which I found out that she did). I told her I was done with her lies and didn't want to talk to her anymore. It was for a stupid reason maybe, but she's lied many times in the past and I felt that nothing would change.

 

So we didnt talk for 3 months. Then one the day of our would be anniversary she calls me. Got my number from my brother and said she wanted to talk to me. I texted her the next day and asked what she wanted. She said she was sorry for calling me so late and that she knows I get up early and hopes that everything is going allright with me. ALso said she sent me an email. So I read it and it pretty much blamed me for not wanting to work on my trust issues with her. Like it was my fault that I didn't trust her. She knows she lies and I have no idea why she does. So we started talking again. I told her if we're gonna work on this that she should move out here in December when my lease was up at my old place. She said ok. Then a week later she says, if we'ere gonna do this lets do it now. I obliged. She payed for my brother to fly down to Florida and ride out here with her. Then I payed for his ticket to get back home.

 

So she gets here. One day she was all sad and said she was homesick and missed her family. I said, I understand and maybe she should start working to keep busy and get her mind off things. She was here for 3 weeks and had no job lined up. I found her a job at a bar, which she said she didn't want to do, but I said you have to do something till you find something. So the 5th day she was here, a girl from back home, who was a friend sent me a picture mail of a snow penis. Totally stupid thing. My girlfriend asked who it was and I told her it was a chick I knew from back home and that she didn't know her. She got mad. We got in an argument, so I brought her home, said I was gonna go up to get a crock pot and cook something. I didn't want to deal with another argument and decided to go to a bar by myself and get drunk. I stayed all night and she called and called and I just needed time. I ended up coming home at 8 in the morning cause I passed out in my car cause I didn't want to drive or call her cause she'd flip. I apologized after a heated argument telling her I was tired and didn't want to talk.

 

So days go by she eventually starts her new job. I talked to her at 10 that night and my phone went dead. So i charged it and called her back and she didn't answer. So I go to bed that night. She comes home at 5 a.m. all drunk. I was mad cause I get yelled at for not calling and she does the same thing. So we argue, she starts hitting me and saying she's fine without me. Two days later a guy calls her cell phone saying " Hey this is so and so I got your number on Friday, seeing if you want to go get a drink and I'll show you around town". I flipped. When i confronted her she said she was helping their table all night and they were talking about music and she thought they would be cool people to hang out with. Not once mentioning anything about giving her number to a random guy. So i told her if it was innocent to call him in front of me and she wouldn't. She ends up texting him the next day. Saying sorry for the misunderstanding she has a boyfriend and if they were going to hang out that it would be in a group. I ended up calling the guy to find out if he texted her back which she said he didn't. He said he did. So we argued for a few days afterwards. I also found out that she was dating her ex for 8 months all the while she was over at my house during that time, sleeping with me. We just moved into a new place signed a 9 month lease, and Wednesday she decides to pack her car up and drive back to Minnesota. Now she's saying that she doesn't want to live her life like this. I said you cant keep running from your problems. You keep coming back and leaving. So obviously you can't live without me, so lets go talk to someone and figure this out. She refuses and now she doesn't call back or text. I think she knows she messed up and runs from it to not face the truth. She said it will be her last time, which she said before. Whta do I do? Sorry so long hope you all read it just to get the facts. Thanks for any helps.

[NickiNick]

In my opinion, you should let her go. Ignore her and move on with your llife. Apparently there is a serious issue of trust and without that you guys will keep arguing for things that happened in the past etc... You probably love her as well as she does, but this ain't a compatible relation. She has to find her path first, get a job etC... then if you are destined to be together then your paths will cross again... until then MOVE ON!