asilisa Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 So it's been almost two weeks since the break up and about a week since I last saw him. I know that it's over and even if he did come back I couldn't really accept him back. I just know we aren't meant to be together and it hurts to know it and have to live it. So, if I know that we shouldn't be together why can't I stop thinking about him...like about past memories or what he is doing or how he is feeling? I just hate being single...I hate it so much. I feel as though I will never meet someone who will make me happy or love me. I'm so scared...
wowIlose Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I feel ya, its been 3 months for me and it still hurts like a biatch, its gotten better though compared to week 1 or week 2... (those weeks were pathetic and lowest points in my life). Also, don't be scared, your a 23 year old girl I dont think you'll have trouble meeting someone who'll make you happy again. You'll probably look back at this situation and be glad it happened because it led to a person who you love and he actually loves you back. So keep your head up, its not going to be easy by any means but you sound like your already doin better than most.
MattyTee Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 So it's been almost two weeks since the break up and about a week since I last saw him. I know that it's over and even if he did come back I couldn't really accept him back. I just know we aren't meant to be together and it hurts to know it and have to live it. So, if I know that we shouldn't be together why can't I stop thinking about him...like about past memories or what he is doing or how he is feeling? I just hate being single...I hate it so much. I feel as though I will never meet someone who will make me happy or love me. I'm so scared... Heya, As Wow says you seem to be doing better than a lot of people. One thing I would say (and it's not going to come out clear, it's late here) is that something I learnt is that it's really important to remember that you need to find happiness within, for you. It's the same for love in a way - you need to learn to love you too! If you are able to become a happy person alone then other happy people will be drawn to you and you can find an incredible love there. Sorry if that didn't make sense
Scorpio13c Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Hi Alsilisa, Take heart to what Wow & Matty say, they have good hearts & great insights, as they've gone/are going through what you're going through! Scorp
MattyTee Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Hey Scorp, Thanks man, I actually had no idea what I was typing - it was like 4am!!! Anyway, inner love and peace - that's the way!
Author asilisa Posted November 13, 2007 Author Posted November 13, 2007 Hey guys thanks for your responses. I know I could be a lot worse...and so i am lucky in a sense. It's just so strange to wake up one day and not have that person to talk to anymore...and not because they can't but because they don't want to. I guess I don't really want to talk to him anymore either I just can't wait for the day when it doesn't hurt my heart anymore...when I don't think "What is he doing?"...probably nothing just like he did when he was with me. Anyway thanks guys...and Matty I'm glad you had no idea what you were writing Take care Lisa
MattyTee Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 *grin* I don't think I ever have any idea what I'm writing, I certainly never take my own advice You seem to be in a much better place than I was at that time. I realise that in my case I had an unhealthy attachment to her, it wasn't just that I loved her but I relied on her to be making me happy. The thing is I wasn't happy, neither was she really - it's just neither of us knew what the hell to do about it. I'm absolutely certain that had I known what I know now, things would have been much better for us. However, we've both been given journeys to go on and we can either accept it as a gift, learn and grow ... or 'move on' in the traditional sense and find someone new (it seems she is doing this). All the best! Let's all get through it together
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