sumdude Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 OK figured I'd start a thread here and finally let my divorce thread die... time to move on. So I'm 39 now and single again, no kids, in good shape, fairly attractive .... my freinds, men and women say I'm a decent catch and shouldn't worry too much. I was never a big dater before my marriage so in a way it's new territory from here on out. It's been 10 months since the ex left and the D is official for 2 1/2 months now. I'm just considering sticking my toes in the dating pool. I think the available women around my group of freinds still see me as 'radioactive' from the D so time to start fishing in another pond. So how do I handle bringing up the divorce should I meet someone ... early on? Wait for a while? What kind of recation should I expect from women? Will I have the baggage alert sign on or what? I'm confident in myself but often reserved or even a bit bashful in the initial approaching... advice here? How do younger women, say in thier mid late 20's feel about a divorced guy my age with no kids? I'm not opposed to a woman in her 30's at all but I have no kids and feel it would be better to find someone in the same situation.
BeautifulMusic Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 This summer I met and I was very interested in a guy who was going through a divorce and had no kids. He opened up to me about it a little but, but didn't go into a ton of detail about the current state of things, so I don't think they were officially divorced yet, but they were in the process of it at least. I know it's been a tough time for him, so I figured he needs a friend and not some girl trying to get with him, so that's what I've been. My advice to you would be to make it clear you're ready to date if you think you are so women don't have to guess that. As far as how I feel about divorced guys, I've never been in the situation of being interested in a divorced guy before, but now that I have, I can tell you it didn't bother me at all. I just thought his wife must be stupid to let him go because this is obviously a GREAT guy. And the divorce had made him very sensitive, and he talked to me about some of his feelings, and I loved that he opened up to me like that. I don't know if any of that helps you, but that's my experience with it.
Author sumdude Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Thanks that helps ... I guess it's about conversation in general. People tend to talk about what's been up in our lives recently and though the divorce is done the offical end is recent.
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