in love and confused Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I have been dating a man for 3 years living together for 2 and we have a 10 month old together. Before our son was born he always said he wanted to marry me , since our son has been born he has not mentioned it. let me say that I thought I didn't want to get married but since he hasn't mentioned it I'm wondering why? Honestly i thought he'd aleast ask me even if we didn't make plans for 20 years. I"ve never mention it to him. Should I? don't want him to get upset or think I 'm pushing. Also, in the last 10 months he has not taken me anywhere, we did go on a trip together with his family. He has also gone on walks with me and our son. I've asked and even become very upset about the two of us having "alone time". He still goes golfing and out with his friends just not with me I've been pleading with him to teach me to golf. Always an excuse! am i missing something? He says he loves me .
Racquel Colette Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Yes, you need to mention this to him, that you expect you will be married. There is nothing wrong with expressing this to him. There is absolutely no excuse for him to want to marry you since he is living with you. However, you should decide if you want a guy like that. You want a man who WANTS to spend time with you and do things with you, hang out with you. A man who still opens the car door for you and does little things for you just to be considerate because he's ALWAYS thinking about you! This is how a man is who is in love.
Author in love and confused Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 not sure if i'm doing this right. not only do we live together but I am not working . this gives me no way to save money , not that i plan to leave, I feel stuck because of this no matter how much i want in or out, its not up to me. I've tried to mention that I want him to want to spend time with me alone, but thats just me nagging he is a very selfish person more than most!! not even sure I want to mention marriage to him, because he is so selfish.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Sounds to me like he's got the best of both worlds here. He's got a live in gf and a baby, and didn't even have to get married to get either. You could ask this guy, but honestly it just sounds like he doesn't really need to get married since he's got everything already.
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