Dynamo Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 So does anyone have tips on flirting? I'm a nice guy, but I'm sorta new to the whole flirting business. I've always sort of playfully-mocked them (not mocked in a mean way, but you get what I mean) but I'm curious if there is something else I should be doing? Any suggestions, pointers, tips, etc are much appreciated! (also keep in mind I'm young, only in Highschool, so I don't know if flirting is different for full-blown adults as it is for teenagers ) Thanks!
Phateless Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 There are "bits" you can do together, sort of like mini-role playing, joking around. Gentle mocking is good, but make sure that's not all you do. Don't forget to touch her now and then. DON'T compliment her looks in the beginning, or if you do, do it very seldom (because EVERY guy does that). There's another post where I explained it perfectly, let's see if I can find it.
Phateless Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 here ya go Quote: Originally Posted by nellstar The flirting. How do you guys do that? I want to get back into dating and I wonder how girls have the confidents to flirt. I see some guys and girls here flirting and I wonder how? Flirting consists mainly of gentle teasing, friendly banter, play-fighting, and a bit of showing off. Just re-read our posts and you'll see what I mean. You need to have the attitude of self-confidence and that you are worthwhile. I know if I met Lyssa in person that I'd be able to charm her, and that confidence defines the way I behave. My thought is that life is way too short to waste time being afraid to go after what you want. On top of that, you will regret it longer if you are too chicken to take an opportunity to try, than if you try and get shot down. Make sense? For example, I'm still mad at myself for not talking to that super-hottie at Borders the other day who was obviously checking me out. I was with two female friends and I just couldn't think of a good way to approach. Now the girl from Friday night, on the other hand, I asked her if she was interested in hanging out some time before she left and she said "I don't think so." Her I have no doubts about. NEXT!! Don't be afraid to show people who you are. If you don't get along, so what, that leaves you free to find someone even cooler that understands you. btw, Lyssa - so what new pictures are you going to take to impress me today?
Pedigree Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Is there's supposed to be a link attached to the first part of your post? Because it doesn't work.
Trimmer Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Is there's supposed to be a link attached to the first part of your post? Because it doesn't work. Those are the remnants of the various buttons and emoticons that were in the original post from which he cut-and-pasted the passage. They are irrelevant to the content of the post...
Author Dynamo Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Great, thanks for the info Phateless! Does anyone else have anything they'd like to add?
Author Dynamo Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Hahaha.. That gave me a good laugh. How well does that work for you on average, LovesDog?
Blue Eyed Brain Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Do something subtle and kind. Like: Pick up something she drops Hold the door open for her Give her a pencil when she's looking for one also, smile You could give her a nickname that compliments her without sounding stalkish - like Sparks, Spunky, Energizer Bunny - something original to her.....
Lovegod Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 There are "bits" you can do together, sort of like mini-role playing, joking around. Gentle mocking is good, but make sure that's not all you do. Don't forget to touch her now and then. DON'T compliment her looks in the beginning, or if you do, do it very seldom (because EVERY guy does that). There's another post where I explained it perfectly, let's see if I can find it. Agreed 100% I highly emphasize the touching part.
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Since you're only in highschool, teenage girls are still trying to find themselves so compliments about their appearance and how hot they look, will probably work.
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Since you're only in highschool, teenage girls are still trying to find themselves so compliments about their appearance and how hot they look, will probably work. Sorry TBF, that will land this poor guy right into the friend zone.
Citizen Erased Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Just read pretty much any thread TP is in, you'll learn
Trialbyfire Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 Sorry TBF, that will land this poor guy right into the friend zone. In Highschool? I think you forget what the little chickas are like. You shower them with compliments about how hawt they are, then you treat them like dirt...
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 In Highschool? I think you forget what the little chickas are like. You shower them with compliments about how hawt they are, then you treat them like dirt... lol, not at all... there are a few 18 year olds around this town and i just make fun of them casually and they fawn. it cracks me up. in fact the only girls i tell are pretty are my friends who i'm not trying to date. the last girl i hooked up with i didn't comment on her looks once. to the OP - try it both ways and report back
LovesDog Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 guy i'm dating said, "ok gorgeous, talk to you later" on the phone. i wanted to say I LOVE YOU!!! but didn't. that would've sunk me for sure! i still love it when i'm staring at a guy and he winks at me subtly and doesn't look away. throwing rocks never really worked for me, but kicking them in the shins helps.
Phateless Posted November 13, 2007 Posted November 13, 2007 guy i'm dating said, "ok gorgeous, talk to you later" on the phone. i wanted to say I LOVE YOU!!! but didn't. that would've sunk me for sure! i still love it when i'm staring at a guy and he winks at me subtly and doesn't look away. throwing rocks never really worked for me, but kicking them in the shins helps. Haha, yeah I'll say that if I've been participating in an ongoing flirtation with them for a little bit, or if we've already hooked up or something... but not in the first few times we hang out.
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