Phateless Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 A year later, I find myself wanting to contact my ex. At the time we broke up, I didn't say all the things I should have because the anger hadn't set in. Hell, at that point I hadn't yet learned how to respect myself. Now that I do know, I kinda want to tell her all the things I never did, although I know it's a little late. I hate the idea of writing a letter and never sending it. It's been NC for almost the entire year. We've spoke once or twice about other things, such as me calling her on her graduation from college (I thought it was worth breaking NC for that) and exchanging a last few items before she skipped town. The last time I heard from her was a week or two ago when she IMd simply saying "wanna be friends?" and I wrote back "I thought we were." to which I never got another reply or attempt at contact from her. btw, I heard recently from her friend (just before the IM) that her new BF is in Thailand for a year. Thoughts?
serendip Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Depends on what you want to say? If you have no feelings for this person...then it really doesn't matter what you say b/c it won't affect you but if it's negative...do you really want to bring up issues again
Author Phateless Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Depends on what you want to say? If you have no feelings for this person...then it really doesn't matter what you say b/c it won't affect you but if it's negative...do you really want to bring up issues again That's the thing... not really. But in a way I want to redeem myself in my own eyes by telling her the things I wouldn't let her get away with now that I've changed. She doesn't realize how much crap I tolerated because I thought I had to.
serendip Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 That's the thing... not really. But in a way I want to redeem myself in my own eyes by telling her the things I wouldn't let her get away with now that I've changed. She doesn't realize how much crap I tolerated because I thought I had to. But I don't think she will see that since a year has already passed without you mentioning any of this earlier it's like that episode of the simpsons when homer punches lenny in the back of the head while lenny was drinking coffee...for no reason at all she might think you haven't moved on
Author Phateless Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Ohhh, I've moved on all right, lol. I do plenty of moving... I just don't let any of the girls I've moved to stop me from continuing to move.
serendip Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I guess write her a email then best of luck
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