snap226 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 My boyfriend of 1.5 years told me he needed some space on Tuesday. The reason given to me was that he no longer feels a sexual attraction to me. He said he hasn't for the past 2 months. He said all other aspects of the relationship are perfect. Needless to say I was floored, but agreed to give hime his space. I have not let my appearence go bad. I keep myself in shape and most find me to be an attractive woman. I come to find out that his Ex has been calling him and leaning on him due to some health issues she is haveing. All this coincides to the two month time period when his feelings started changing. From mutual friends (my best friend is married to his), his ex and him had had a very bad relationship that lasted longer then it should. He was always miserable when he dated her and just wanted out. They used to live together. He moved out, quit his job, and relocated 2.5 hours away to be with me. 2 months ago she moved here (family lives here) due to financial problems. Our relationship on the other hand was always funf illed, happy, and up to two months ago had a strong sexual attraction. His friends and family agreed that they never saw him as happy as when he was me. This leaves me to be all confused and thoughts are racing through my head now. I don't know if her calling him again has him all confused and he doesn't know which way to go with things now. Or if he really just fell out of love with me. I'm hoping that with his space he comes around and realizes he made a mistake. Until then I will stick to No contact rule and see if he comes around. Any advice or opinions about this?
Amy22 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I think you are doing the right thing by not contacting him. Regardless of whether he is confused because she called or if he did fall out of love, I don't think it will help to call. I know it is hard when you don't have the answers. Read some of the threads here they have some great advice. Keep your head up and stay strong.
minerva63 Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 I agree. Give him the space he asked for. Contacting him right now would give you the exact opposite of what you want. He'll just push you away. I know it's tempting, but do other things when you get the urge. Call a friend, go for a walk, post here, anything but contact him.
Author snap226 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 Thanks for your responses. I have been reading through the threads on this site and they have been some help. I'm trying hard to stick to the no contact rule and am pretty sure I can do it. I learned the hard way from past experiences. Not this psrticular ex, but one from a few years ago. After breaking up, whenever I called him I felt like complete ****, because he was cold and rude to me. I NEVER want to feel that low again.
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