amerikajin Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I just went out on a date with someone whom I knew to be a bit younger than I, but I just found out tonight she's almost 12 years my junior. She's "mature" but I know that even someone who's "mature" isn't at the same stage in life that I am. Not sure if that's a bad thing, and hell, I'm not even sure I'm looking for guidance here. But then again, maybe I am. Would you carry on and just see what happens? Oh, and in the grand tradition of making things as complicated as I possibly can for myself, this young lass and I are in the same grad program, and see each other quite a bit. Fortunately, I don't sense that things have gotten too, too far yet.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Are you in good shape? Do you still have all of your hair? If you're in grad school I know you're not rich, so these are the most important questions
Author amerikajin Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Are you in good shape? Do you still have all of your hair? If you're in grad school I know you're not rich, so these are the most important questions I'm in ***** shape, I'm losing my hair, and I've got no money and even less game. Next.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I'm in ***** shape, I'm losing my hair, and I've got no money and even less game. Next. I'm in the same situation which I would think would make younger women a difficult proposition. The problem is women my age usually want a guy with an established career, so its a a conundrum (sp?) and most women in their thirties are married anyways It gets harder to date as we get older it seems and sometimes one is put off with the idea all together
Author amerikajin Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 I'm in the same situation which I would think would make younger women a difficult proposition. The problem is women my age usually want a guy with an established career, so its a a conundrum (sp?) and most women in their thirties are married anyways It gets harder to date as we get older it seems and sometimes one is put off with the idea all together Mail order brides to the rescue! Seriously, I know what you mean. I think there are some good chicks out there...it's just like hell trying to find them. I don't have any expectations right now.
Citizen Erased Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I'm in the same situation which I would think would make younger women a difficult proposition. The problem is women my age usually want a guy with an established career, so its a a conundrum (sp?) and most women in their thirties are married anyways It gets harder to date as we get older it seems and sometimes one is put off with the idea all together Well I still have a crush on you and I'm way younger
burning 4 revenge Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Well I still have a crush on you and I'm way younger lol, I think you have an old soul though. Not too many twenty year olds like reading Sallust and Livy
Citizen Erased Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 lol, I think you have an old soul though. Not too many twenty year olds like reading Sallust and Livy Old soul, I like that. Well they just don't know what they're missing out on... or have to sit on a train for 2 and a half hours each weekday Good to see you back on here btw
Minni Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 If age is an issue to you now, it will be an issue to you 6 months from now. I "carried on" and this is where it went - eventually the age difference got to me. I dated a wonderful man, PERFECT in every way...13 years younger than me. He was very mature, an old soul. He was in school, I had my own career, already out of school. Age was an issue for me when we started dating. I felt like I looked like his older sister, or worse, mother! (It's okay, I look younger than my age!) I don't think that's a huge issue for men, because it's more acceptable for an older man to be with a younger woman. (Grrr...) You're both in school, so you have more in common. Depends what you're looking for. I think you need to reread what you wrote. You wrote that someone who is mature may not be at the same stage of life that you're in. That's how I felt. it broke my heart and his to end the relationship. It was a beautiful. wonderful experience, but I knew how I felt from the start. I'd guess you're probably around 33. I dated a man in his 30's when I was in my 20's. It was a fun experience - something different from the guys in their 20's. Have fun. Go on a few more dates if you enjoyed each other's company & have something to talk about. There are plenty of people out there! (More women than men too!) I would also focus on school & your career objectives. Women like successful men. We may not admit it, but we like men who make money and can take care of us - along with other things - fun, smart, etc.
Monty P Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Carry on, see what happens. I agree with Minni, if you had a good time and enjoyed each others company, ask her out again and see how it goes The age and place in life thing IMO could be a bit tricky. My experience mainly being, they get out of work/school and want to go party until 3 am, us old guys get out of work/school and want to go home and go to bed. But that's just my experience ..lol.. But seriously, give it a go. It might not go anywhere, but it still could.
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