BeautifulMusic Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 So, until this summer, I hadn't dated in almost 3 years. Prior to that, I had a relationship that lasted almost a year and a half, but after that relationship ended, I didn't want to date for a long time and then when I finally did want to again, I had trouble finding guys I was interested in dating. The guys who are interested in me never seem to be the ones I want to date and vice versa. And it was a state of affairs I had sort of grown accustomed to until this summer. That's not to say that I didn't want to date someone, but it's not as if I felt something was hugely missing in my life or anything. I don't know how that much time passed, though- I guess I just stuck in a routine. Fast forward to this summer, though, and things were different for some reason I can't quite understand. I was working multiple jobs this summer, and at one job there were a few guys who were interested in me, and I ended up going out with two of them. First, I don't know what was different about being at that job that caused things to be so much better for me. I guess part of it could be that I just met new guys that were approximately my age, but I meet guys that are about my age other places, too. I do know that as the summer went on, I gained confidence because of all this flirting and interest and ended up doing something I'd never done before, which is to ask a guy if he wanted to exchange numbers. (The fact that I did that was HUGE, it was totally new territory for me, but I was glad it went well the first time I tried because now I might be open to doing that again in the future.) We did, and he asked me out later and that ended up being my second date of the summer. The first date with the other guy was okay, but I knew I didn't want to go out with him again. The date with the second guy went really well, though. And it wasn't until I had the date with that second guy that I realized how much I missed dating. We went to see a movie and he held my hand and we kissed at the end of the night and it was just a perfect evening... I had so much fun! So I guess my question is, what should I be doing differently to replicate the kind of results I was having this summer? And I know that's a hard question to answer because y'all obviously don't know what I'm like to know what I'd need to change. But any advice that you have would be appreciated! Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Author BeautifulMusic Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Okay, I guess I should rephrase the question... For those of you who have gone through long dry spells where you didn't date for whatever reason, how did you get out of those and dating again? What changed to get you back out there? Also, being that I am young and haven't dated in three years except for those two dates, I'm not very good in putting the signal out there that I'm interested because I haven't had a ton of practice with it. So any suggestions about that would be much appreciated, too. Hopefully, rewording it this way is clearer and I'll get some responses...
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