ahah2322 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 hey guys, i know there are many threads on 'who should pay?' and the likes. but most of it are 'first date etiquettes'. i am interested in finding out how a couple in a LT relationship sorts these 'financial' issues. my bf of 3yrs got rather upset yesterday. he pays big-ticket meals and ice cream dates most of the time i.e 80% and he thinks it's pretty unfair. we're both financially well-off but society and traditions seem to dictate that men should be the one paying most of the time so i was brought up with this notion. i feel that guys should be the one paying most of the time. how do you guys in LT relationships handle such financial quandary? do you guys feel ok paying most of the bills?
Trezza Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 ha ha you are asking if men feel ok paying the bills? no, they don't - i don't pay for meals when I go out - I split it! Or even better get her to pay for me! Just because society says so - doesn't mean that it is right! Society is seriously ****ed up in the head. However your question is directed at long term relationships, but I still think that the bill should be split. Maybe for a special occasion such as your birthday he could pay the bill, and vice versa.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 hey guys, i know there are many threads on 'who should pay?' and the likes. but most of it are 'first date etiquettes'. i am interested in finding out how a couple in a LT relationship sorts these 'financial' issues. my bf of 3yrs got rather upset yesterday. he pays big-ticket meals and ice cream dates most of the time i.e 80% and he thinks it's pretty unfair. we're both financially well-off but society and traditions seem to dictate that men should be the one paying most of the time so i was brought up with this notion. i feel that guys should be the one paying most of the time. how do you guys in LT relationships handle such financial quandary? do you guys feel ok paying most of the bills? Most of the time, my bf gets the bill. Sometimes I'll pay. Usually he'll insist on paying. But I pay for other things sometimes. On the whole, he pays more than I do. Same thing applies to my ex.
Sean0775 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I don't mind paying when I happen to go on a date, though separate checks make more sense if it's a first date. My ex would demand to pickup the check once in a while, and I'd always let her even though it felt odd. I always figured my paying when we went out made up for all the home cooked meals she made me, but different strokes for different folks.
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Most of the time, my bf gets the bill. Sometimes I'll pay. Usually he'll insist on paying. But I pay for other things sometimes. On the whole, he pays more than I do. Same thing applies to my ex. Same here. I make less than him, though. But I don't know if that factors into it? I try to cook surprise dinners or buy movie tix or some practical surprises he could use. But he ususally insists on paying for dinners, vacations and every day things. It wasn't like that in the beginning though, he started to do that more as time went on.
Lauriebell82 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I'm still in school and my bf is an accountant so he pays the majority of the time right now. We talked about it, and when I do get a fulltime job and start earning a lot more money I will start treating him more often. I try to pay for what I can, treating him to fast food and ice cream dates and things like that. I too feel that guys should pay a lot of the time, but I do think that women could help out too, just because usually guys burn through money paying for date after date. That being said, there are a lot of guys who will insist on paying..even if their gf offers. Times are chaning though, equal rights and stuff. I think you should maybe cut him a break, and pick up the check on a whim..just as a sweet thing to do because you love him. He'll really appreciate it, I'm sure!
Author ahah2322 Posted November 11, 2007 Author Posted November 11, 2007 thanks for all your responses. we're both still schooling so he shouldn't be picking up the tab almost all the time. and i guess i will learn to pay more frequently. thanks! weird that women innately expect guys to pay huh...
Ocean-Blue Posted November 11, 2007 Posted November 11, 2007 Same here. I make less than him, though. But I don't know if that factors into it? I try to cook surprise dinners or buy movie tix or some practical surprises he could use. But he ususally insists on paying for dinners, vacations and every day things. It wasn't like that in the beginning though, he started to do that more as time went on. Yeah, I'm in school and he's working...so that may have something to with the imbalance in who pays.
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