Where to Meet Intelligent Men

[Ocean-Blue]

Part of that is true.....part not true.

 

True....overall I'm a loner.....always have been.

 

The part that's not true about that though is.....I don't think there are many guys in my area that I'm interested in so expanding my network won't help that much. My area doesn't have many intellectuals. The majority talk primarily of sports, beer, and camping.

 

Ever consider moving? Perhaps to bigger city that is bustling with activity. Such places always seem to have a plethora of men with varied backgrounds, tastes and interests.

[uniqueone]

I hear ya, babe.[/i]

 

Sorry to disappoint you, but I don't think there is any specific place to meet one. The high-IQ ones can be dumb as hell. I browsed the dating sites and I saw like one profile that was KINDA nice, but the rest were like "love to play golf and hang out" type of men. The essays are a big turn-off, precisely BECAUSE they are not putting any effort in it. My STBX-husband had a wonderful profile and he is not the type of intellignece that I was looking for either. It's a huge problem. Just keep looking and hoping.

 

I agree with you about the high IQ types. I've started to become pretty leary of them for other reasons as well.

[uniqueone]

Ever consider moving? Perhaps to bigger city that is bustling with activity. Such places always seem to have a plethora of men with varied backgrounds, tastes and interests.

 

I already answered this in another post but I'll go over it again.....

 

It's not like you can just up and move. First, move where? you can't just close your eyes and pick a place on the map. Wherever you choose is no guarantee that you picked the right place. You could end up picking a place that's even worse.

 

And then there a job.....give a job you have for.....lack of a job? Decent jobs are hard to come by so I can't see myself just quitting a job and packing up just for the POSSIBILITY of meeting a guy somewhere.

 

I also own a house. That means selling a house and houses aren't selling right now and then there's whether I could buy a house in the new city for what I sold my house for where I live now.

 

These are all factors.

 

It's much easier to just up and move if say you're in an entry level job and renting an apartment than if you have a bit more established already.

 

But like I said before, the good thing is, with the internet, one is able to "meet" people in other cities without having to change jobs and sell houses....those things could come later should you click with the person.

 

So yes, moving would be great to do in theory, but in practicality, probably not.

[Ocean-Blue]

I already answered this in another post but I'll go over it again.....

 

It's not like you can just up and move. First, move where? you can't just close your eyes and pick a place on the map. Wherever you choose is no guarantee that you picked the right place. You could end up picking a place that's even worse.

 

And then there a job.....give a job you have for.....lack of a job? Decent jobs are hard to come by so I can't see myself just quitting a job and packing up just for the POSSIBILITY of meeting a guy somewhere.

 

I also own a house. That means selling a house and houses aren't selling right now and then there's whether I could buy a house in the new city for what I sold my house for where I live now.

 

These are all factors.

 

It's much easier to just up and move if say you're in an entry level job and renting an apartment than if you have a bit more established already.

 

But like I said before, the good thing is, with the internet, one is able to "meet" people in other cities without having to change jobs and sell houses....those things could come later should you click with the person.

 

So yes, moving would be great to do in theory, but in practicality, probably not.

 

Hmm...I see your point. I asked that as a 20 something who is currently floating.

 

So what are you going to do then unique? Every avenue seems to be a dead end...so something's got to give, right?

[marlena]

....I've dated some and all of them were screwed up. I seriously wonder if there's a correlation between extremely high intelligence and emotional or mental problems.

 

This last one was a true, true narcissist. Another one I recall was not a bad guy but he definately had some mental issues. Extremely brilliant mind though.

 

 

This I, too, found to be true! So why are we still looking for the intelligent type?

[uniqueone]

Hmm...I see your point. I asked that as a 20 something who is currently floating.

 

So what are you going to do then unique? Every avenue seems to be a dead end...so something's got to give, right?

 

 

I think you discounted what I said in the latter part of my post where I talked about the internet.

 

This is what ticks me off about people choosing only to read what they want to read on here.

 

You're acting like I shot your idea down but you totally ignored what I said at the end of my post.

[uniqueone]

This I, too, found to be true! So why are we still looking for the intelligent type?

 

 

I think I should lower it to intelligent but not Mensa types. I can't say whether or not the ones that I've dated were truly Mensa material or not but they were very much up there.

 

So I guess I'm looking for "intelligent" but not quite THAT high.

 

Because the ones that are "THAT" high......well...there's just some weird wiring going on up there.......

[Ocean-Blue]

I think you discounted what I said in the latter part of my post where I talked about the internet.

 

This is what ticks me off about people choosing only to read what they want to read on here.

 

You're acting like I shot your idea down but you totally ignored what I said at the end of my post.

 

Err...sorry if my post suggested that I was annoyed at you "shooting down" my suggestion. It wasn't even a suggestion (the moving bit), it was more of a question.

 

Plus, I don't take offense that easily.

 

And you're right, I did forget the internet bit. I think it's a great way to meet new people (even if they don't end up being a potential mate).

[LikeNoOther]

What happens to non-intelligent men if all women go for intelligent men?

[squeak]

That's a difficult question because the idea of what makes someone intelligent is subjective too.

 

And most people are interested in the intelligence they can relate to, so....now we have different levels.

Street smarts,

or university degrees,

or emotional intelligence,

or social intelligence.

 

They don't all go hand in hand, yet each one signifies intelligence in it's own right. One size does not fit all, there is much room for interpretation.

[Trialbyfire]

That's a difficult question because the idea of what makes someone intelligent is subjective too.

 

And most people are interested in the intelligence they can relate to, so....now we have different levels.

Street smarts,

or university degrees,

or emotional intelligence,

or social intelligence.

 

They don't all go hand in hand, yet each one signifies intelligence in it's own right. One size does not fit all, there is much room for interpretation.

But...but...why is a choice necessary between all four? Don't forget to tag common sense on the end of street smarts.

[uniqueone]

Err...sorry if my post suggested that I was annoyed at you "shooting down" my suggestion. It wasn't even a suggestion (the moving bit), it was more of a question.

 

Plus, I don't take offense that easily.

 

And you're right, I did forget the internet bit. I think it's a great way to meet new people (even if they don't end up being a potential mate).

 

I just wanted to stop yet another post from happening that said I shoot down suggestions.

[uniqueone]

What happens to non-intelligent men if all women go for intelligent men?

 

They become President.

[uniqueone]

That's a difficult question because the idea of what makes someone intelligent is subjective too.

 

And most people are interested in the intelligence they can relate to, so....now we have different levels.

Street smarts,

or university degrees,

or emotional intelligence,

or social intelligence.

 

They don't all go hand in hand, yet each one signifies intelligence in it's own right. One size does not fit all, there is much room for interpretation.

 

For the purpose of this conversation, I was primariliy referring to book smarts.

[Trialbyfire]

Part of that is true.....part not true.

 

True....overall I'm a loner.....always have been.

 

The part that's not true about that though is.....I don't think there are many guys in my area that I'm interested in so expanding my network won't help that much. My area doesn't have many intellectuals. The majority talk primarily of sports, beer, and camping.

It's not difficult to have a mix of being social sometimes and being a loner, other times. The best kind of friends are ones that don't have to be in your face at all times. When you both or the group of you feel like being social, you get together, otherwise, you spend time alone doing whatever you want. You can also find a mix of the two types of friends. Overall, friendship doesn't mean you lose your self-reliance or your personal free time.

 

But...gaining close friends, thereby increasing your social network, you have to allow someone inside your walls and learn to give to them, in reciprocation. They need to know they can come to you for support and you will be there for them, but it can't be on a continuous basis. They also will expect that you'll come to them for support but once again, not on a continuous basis.

[Alexandra]

So what types of forums did you find them on?

 

As I was saying above, current affairs forums, political issues forums, even forums geared towards your local community. I understand a soul or two even found love on LS so how hard can it be on a nor.... different sort of forum?

[uniqueone]

As I was saying above, current affairs forums, political issues forums, even forums geared towards your local community. I understand a soul or two even found love on LS so how hard can it be on a nor.... different sort of forum?

 

 

Hmmmmm....I wonder if there are any local forums. Guess I'll see if I can search for one. Then again, it will probably be on topics like beer, sports, camping.......

[uniqueone]

Ok....another example of intelligent but emotionally ****** up.....

 

Some guy was writing me and he's not really a genius but he's travelled all over the world, pilot's his own plane, has travelled to some country to take pictures at 4 am of some lunar event that only happens once in a lifetime.....stuff like that. He sounds like kind of an Indiana Jones type.

 

So he asks for my regular email address and then he emails me some pictures he took of space....nothing more.

 

With the funk I've been in lately I didn't respond. Besides, what am I supposed to respond with? "Uh...nice pictures of the sky......"

 

So I get this email now that says:

 

I sent you two of my photos 4 days ago. I don't email my photos to just anyone. They are special to me, although they certainly may have zero meaning to you. Just a thank you would have been nice.

 

Sheesh...what does he expect? I mean....how about "hey...tell me more about yourself....?" NOT "here's two pictures I took of outer space.

 

So now I'm thinking....wow....he got offended because I didn't respond to his pictures of outer space? I'm starting to picture him revving up a Delorean that he's converted into a time machine........

[White Flower]

Ok, so you go to those and what? I don't get how you meet people there.

Sorry it took a few days to respond.

 

They have all these comfy couches you can sit on. Snuggle up next to a cutie and ask him what he's reading. He will definitely get the hint.

 

Also, most Barnes and Noble book stores as well as Borders have or are next to coffee shops that allow you to take the book you're checking out inside. Coffee houses are full of hot guys:)

[TheSilentType]

I share your dilemma uniqueone. I don't know where to meet intelligent women at all. Either I meet nerds or I meet people who I know I could never a reasonably intelligent conversation. And I'm not talking about any thing serious either.

 

I have absolutely no where to meet these people. I think I may have missed my opportunity a while ago in school.

 

And I too don't agree with going to volunteering places. Its mostly older people in their 30s and 40s. No thank you.

[MrsHellnoFire]

Hi,

 

You certainly have no shortage of criteria for a man. He must be able to captivate you intellectually, but cannot be so intelligent that he becomes narcissistic.

 

She mentioned that in her other thread. He must be:

 

~ thin

~ attractive

~ nice

~ successful

~ athletic

~ fit

~ intelligent (highly, preferably)

~ educated

~ professional

~ similar sense of humor

~ no young kids

~ late 30's or older

~ etc.....

 

And of course "not":

 

~ emotional or mental problems

~ couldn't commit

~ alcohol issues

~ cheated on their ex

~ weird sexual fetishes

~ narcissists.....

 

--------

 

Ariadne

 

 

If you can find one man on the planet that fits all that, I'll be surprised.

 

Let's just face the fact that this woman is not likely to be pleased by anyone. Not likely to ever be satisfied with a man as she is so ready to pick away at their flaws and faults to see anything deeper.

[johan]

Intelligent men can be found here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t135489/

[Pyro]

Intelligent men can be found here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t135489/

 

Touche.

[amber1]

To clarify...Sean0775 is 24....myself, Stereogram, is 28 years old. I'm in great shape for my age. 6-2 170 lbs. Gym four times a week.

 

I'm finding great variety in the eight women I've associated myself with this year.

 

Girl 1 - Age 32...desperate for a relationship and . Smart...but too smothering and somewhat annoying. Not attracted to her.

Girl 2 - Age 23...somewhat smart (she was law school)...too desperate for a relationship. Not attracted to her.

Girl 3 - Age 28...had a child...lived a bad life...too much baggage but was very sweet. Somewhat attractive.

Girl 4 - Age 26...total bitch...divorced...pretty...very smart. Never returned my phone calls and started ignoring me for some reason.

Girl 5 - Age 22...EXCEPTIONALLY beautiful...had a daughter...low intelligence. Never returned my email so I cut her loose. I wasn't her type, as she liked "thugs".

Girl 6 - Age 22...super needy...senior in college...psychotic...not that pretty.

Girl 7 - Age 25...ditzy and bubbly...pretty...but never returned my phone call.

Girl 8 - Age 23...HOT...super sweet...had a boyfriend.

 

Girl 4 and Girl 8 were the ones I felt I might have had a future with.

 

It always 50/50. Girl likes you, you don't like her. You like girl...they don't like you. Will it be this way when I'm in my 30's? Do girls become more open to those available? I kind of feel like I've had every variety this year and I just having trouble making connections.

 

I think what I need to do is start taking some type art class for adults so I can find someone with similar interests....

 

Hmmm you sound pretty interesting to me.

[lonelybird]

I think people look and think intelligent differently. one person you think intelligent, another might think 'how dumb', all about special connection