uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I keep getting messages daily from the personals and I'm not interested in any of them. I'm starting to wonder why I'm on there. I just don't feel any interest. There were a couple that I started to email but then I lost interest in them. A few I lost interest after looking at their pictures again (realized they put the "fit" picture up as their main one and their REAL up-to-date picture up as their additional picture...where they've gained about 20 pounds). Not just the fitness issue but also the hobbies lost my interest....fishing, camping, hunting......zzzzzzz...... Just not my type. They usually list that the last thing that they read was the back of the cereal box. And then there's grammar and basic language ability...... I just read a message. The guy was cute. Then I noticed in his "additional" photo, he was a good 20 lbs. heavier than his main photo. Then there was the grammar: guess i'm here maybe to meet new friends and maybe a relationship if the chemistry is their. I am looking to meet and honest genuine person.Obviously their has to be a mutual attraction.Thats it in a nut shell.I prefer to talk and communcate about me and my interset as well as yours then writing them down. Ok, I'm going to cut this short and get to my point before I lose a long post again..... I'm just wondering where is a good place to meet intelligent men? (that is....if I can get motivated to even want to meet any men......)
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Do you have an apple computer store around you? How about a programming convention? Anything to do with computer software......
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Do you have an apple computer store around you? How about a programming convention? Anything to do with computer software...... I've gone to computer stores. Maybe I don't live in a friendly city 'cause I don't see guys asking women out in these stores. Sure, you might say "hi" or a word or two, but who's exchanging phone numbers??? Btw, the ones I know in the computer field are either married, have a g/f or they're only interested in their Star War figurines.
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I've gone to computer stores. Maybe I don't live in a friendly city 'cause I don't see guys asking women out in these stores. Sure, you might say "hi" or a word or two, but who's exchanging phone numbers??? Btw, the ones I know in the computer field are either married, have a g/f or they're only interested in their Star War figurines. Star War figurine collecting is cute! What's wrong with that? Better than that porn collecting habit some men take up!
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Star War figurine collecting is cute! What's wrong with that? Better than that porn collecting habit some men take up! Yuck....I don't think I want either! What I meant by the Star Wars guys was those guys who show no interest in women.....only in their PC's and in Star Wars.
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 What about Mensa Monthly Meetings? J/K Hmmm......I think I'd have to be a member....unless they'd let me serve the cookies!
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 You know though....I'm having reservations lately about dating VERY intelligent men....I mean the ones who are brilliant. Reason why....I've dated some and all of them were screwed up. I seriously wonder if there's a correlation between extremely high intelligence and emotional or mental problems. This last one was a true, true narcissist. Another one I recall was not a bad guy but he definately had some mental issues. Extremely brilliant mind though. There were a few more but those are two I can recall most recently.
White Flower Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I have several friends that are looking on dating sites like you are. One of my English professor friend's pet peeves is "hey, your cute!" Like cute was a noun or something!
White Flower Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Sorry, I meant to suggest joining a book club or a poetry group. You might find some more intelligent men there:)
White Flower Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Then there's always Borders and other book stores.
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 This is a really good suggestion, and I'm going to become very upset if you don't try one or both (just kidding).... -volunteer work-especially group activities where the volunteers work together -organizing or being on a charity fundraising benefit committee
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Sorry, I meant to suggest joining a book club or a poetry group. You might find some more intelligent men there:) There was a writers group on a meetup site and I signed up a few months ago. First of all, from what I could see, most who had signed up NEVER attended a meeting. I guess they signed up and then changed their mind (like me). Then I looked at the group photo of the members (who DO show up) You know.....writer's really aren't an attractive bunch, I'm afraid......
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Then there's always Borders and other book stores. Ok, so you go to those and what? I don't get how you meet people there.
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 This is a really good suggestion, and I'm going to become very upset if you don't try one or both (just kidding).... -volunteer work-especially group activities where the volunteers work together -organizing or being on a charity fundraising benefit committee I used to volunteer during the holidays but the place I volunteered at doesn't do it anymore. But there wasnt' anyone to meet there. Most were older and married. Sometimes there were younger couples. Intelligence definately wasn't there in surplus there though. As far as volunteering elsewhere....I have no clue. To be honest, my workdays are too busy to do anything then. My question is though, why would you think that a volunteer place would be full of intelligent people? They pretty much consist of your average Joe.
Sean0775 Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 My question is though, why would you think that a volunteer place would be full of intelligent people? They pretty much consist of your average Joe. Hilariously, most of the people I've met who volunteer do it for the sake of meeting someone and could care less about the cause. It's like a single guy taking a ballroom dancing class: Would anyone honestly believe he was there to learn to dance...and if so, would anyone believe he was straight?
EnigmaVariation Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 What I meant by the Star Wars guys was those guys who show no interest in women.....only in their PC's and in Star Wars. Hey now, no reason to be hating on the Star Wars fans. I know lots of Star Wars guys (and I'm a Star Wars gal myself ) but I don't think you're correctly depicting all male Star Wars fans. There are plenty of Star Wars guys who like computers, collecting, and are very into women (my boyfriend, for example). Actually, I'd put my Star Wars collection up against any guy's though. Maybe the guys you have met are just introverted or shy (or have been the target of cruel people who ridicule a hobby they enjoy). But please do not make a negative generalization of a group of people like that.
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Not where I did volunteer work. Did you actually ever try it-or are you guessing?
Stereogram Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 I've gone to computer stores. Maybe I don't live in a friendly city 'cause I don't see guys asking women out in these stores. Sure, you might say "hi" or a word or two, but who's exchanging phone numbers??? Btw, the ones I know in the computer field are either married, have a g/f or they're only interested in their Star War figurines. You obviously have not met me yet. Single. No Girlfriend. Hates Star Wars. Hates Star Trek. Don't collect toys. Don't even own a video game console. I'm a Systems Programmer for an Insurance Company. Former collegiate athlete. Loves Stephen Wul and Henry Miller. Tall. Dark Hair. 28 years old. Any takers?
squeak Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 My question is though, why would you think that a volunteer place would be full of intelligent people? They pretty much consist of your average Joe. Not where I did volunteer work. Did you actually ever try it-or are you guessing?
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Hey now, no reason to be hating on the Star Wars fans. I know lots of Star Wars guys (and I'm a Star Wars gal myself ) but I don't think you're correctly depicting all male Star Wars fans. There are plenty of Star Wars guys who like computers, collecting, and are very into women (my boyfriend, for example). Actually, I'd put my Star Wars collection up against any guy's though. Maybe the guys you have met are just introverted or shy (or have been the target of cruel people who ridicule a hobby they enjoy). But please do not make a negative generalization of a group of people like that. Please don't take me that seriously. [Note to the mod: Please give me my tongue-in-cheek smiley!]
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 Not where I did volunteer work. Did you actually ever try it-or are you guessing? Who are you responding to? If you're asking me if I ever volunteered, my previous post mentioned that I did....many times.
Author uniqueone Posted November 10, 2007 Author Posted November 10, 2007 You obviously have not met me yet. Single. No Girlfriend. Hates Star Wars. Hates Star Trek. Don't collect toys. Don't even own a video game console. I'm a Systems Programmer for an Insurance Company. Former collegiate athlete. Loves Stephen Wul and Henry Miller. Tall. Dark Hair. 28 years old. Any takers? Um....could you add 10 years maybe? I really hate getting that Mrs. Robinson complex! Speaking of which, I just had a 28 year old guy write to me from the personals yesterday. coo...coo...ca....choo.....
EnigmaVariation Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 Please don't take me that seriously. On a serious note, to meet an intelligent man, I would recommend finding a hobby that you enjoy and seeing if you strike up a friendship with someone who shares the same interests as you do. Perhaps I'm a bit idealistic in my old age, but I believe that we can attract the type of person that we project we are (i.e. if you are funny, easy going, intelligent, giving, caring, etc. then a person of the opposite sex that also shares those attributes will notice you and be attracted to you). Just my thoughts anyway.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 These are just some ideas I'm throwing out. It is a bit silly, but I couldn't resist. I personally think it's a foolproof plan. Really. - bookstore (especially ones that let you sit down and read the books without having to purchase them) - hospitals (I personally cannot resist surgeons, they are just too hot) - court (there are some mighty fine lawyers around - tall, dark and handsome!) This is all I can think of at the moment. Basically you'll want to go to a bookstore where you scope out the men, try to shoplift and end up in a scuffle (where you suffer a minor injury), at which point you are taken to the ER (where you meet the hot doctors) and end the trip by visiting court for your little misdemeanor. Long sentence huh. Good thing I'm not a man, then you wouldn't want to date me!
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