Brooks06 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 So ever since my ex and I talked on the phone earlier this week, we have kept in touch through random facebook messages...Both of us agreed we should be friends, and that we both love each other, we just dont really know what that love means right now. I take it she wants to "explore" her other options for awhile and see what else is out there. I'm almost positive there is another guy. I realized that I just want to keep in touch with her. I dont mind loosing her as a lover so much as I miss losing her as a friend. Do you think being friends is a bad idea? I do hope things circle back around one day, but for now Im doing the things I enjoy. I've been boxing like crazy and have a few fights coming up in the next month, and she said she will try to make it out to one. Its just going to be weird whenever I see her not being able to say or do the same things I have been used to doing for years. And this other guy...They aren't dating or anything, but I know he is trying pretty hard to keep her around and I heard a rumor that they hooked up during the first few weeks of our breakup (a time when we were saying it was just a "break"). I know this guy, ive known him for years, and even though I dont want to stop my ex from dating, I see his actions as a direct slap in the face to me. Would it be wrong to punch this guy next time I see him? He is such an ass and I mean he stabbed me in the back...Im pretty quick to hit someone, and ive hit people over things a lot less important to me, but I dont want to piss off the ex by doing so..but I also don't want him to think he can screw me over like this.
waitingwaitingonyou Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Dude. Do not hit that guy! Trust me that would be a bad idea. Everything you and your ex had is out the window. Just go around like it doesnt bother you! Trust me it will get to her. Dont ever ask about him or even bring up his name. That is the smartest thing to do. Be the bigger man. And do not make yourself available to her. If she calls. Dont answer a few times. Here are som things for you to do. 1. Do not call her ever again. 2. if you want to be her friend fine but it is on your terms. 3. do not go out of your way for her anymore dude. Do not go eat lunch for her across town. 4. Do not ever bring up the guys name. Do not even talk about him. If she talks about him then say....yeah well thats great but your talking to me right now and smile 5. Do fun stuff. And keep things a secret when she wants to hear about your day. Her - So what did you do today? ----- Well nothing much... hung out with some friends....Her - Who? ------- Just some good friends. Make your life a secret to her dude. 6. Move on....start meeting girls....who knows you might meet the one! 7. Be happy while talking to her. Do not ask her that many questions and do not pry into her business...... Just ask questions that have a yes or no answer...so did you have a good day? Did you see anything good on tv? Stay smooth brother....and do not hit the guy!
slygambler Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 Being friends is hard, if not impossible. The things you shared intimately are only going to confuse your emotions when you see/talk to her. At least, that's how I feel with my current situation. I'm not sure about you, but being friends is definitely possible, but I don't think being friends right away is.
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