learn2live Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 My stbxw and I share a lot of friends and some time down the road be it a party or whatnot we may be at the same event. If this does happen do you find that you are able to stay friendly?
Lizzie60 Posted November 9, 2007 Posted November 9, 2007 My stbxw and I share a lot of friends and some time down the road be it a party or whatnot we may be at the same event. If this does happen do you find that you are able to stay friendly? I have remained friends with both my exes... The first one is the father of my son... so whether I like it or not.. he'll always be in the picture. My second... is the sweetest guy on this planet... I would never ever hurt them... and I know they both would come running if I was in trouble. It's way better when you can remain 'friends' ... trust me.. for the children, it's awesome... they are grateful for that...because we can both show up at 'family events' with other people, regarding the kids and be civilized.
sumdude Posted November 10, 2007 Posted November 10, 2007 My second... is the sweetest guy on this planet... So I have to ask ... what happened if he's so great?
OD3 Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 My best friend (to the detriment of a lot of ex-gf's) is my first proper girlfriend. We went out for 4 years and moved over to London together. OUr relationship broke down, but I still had a lot of love for her. I just wasnt in love with her. Then I met someone else, and developed feelings for them. I broke up with my Ex then as I didnt want to cheat on her, but also realised that there was no hope for us as a couple. It was very difficult and a lot of tears but we have always been the best of friends, and we stuck through with it and today we are incredibly close, but in a different kind of way. She is a good person and we are still very good friends. because we went through such a dificult time together (some would say thats as difficult a time you can have) and still managed to be friends, then I think we will be friends for a long time . This does not happen often though. I dont speak to any of my other ex's
sumdude Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 I think it's possible but pretty rare. Maybe when time passes and both find themselves comfortably in a new relationship it makes it easier. All depends how the breakup-divorce was handled, whether or not there are kids, custody etc.. I think it's a harder road to maintain some relationship with an ex ... but maybe in the long run of life the hard road is the better one. I'm trying to retain some sort of distant freindship with my ex... what we went through that killed our marriage was pretty heavy.. I don't need a lot of bitterness in my life either. For now though... for quite a while I'm going NC to help myself move on faster. The future is not written ..
Trialbyfire Posted November 12, 2007 Posted November 12, 2007 Yes, my cheating ex-H and I are friends and have been for some months. We went through a hellish divorce that was finalized earlier this year. Once you stop being in love with them and they are doing everything within their power to change their internal issues which caused the problems, you can forgive them and be friends.
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